Depends on the depth of the relationship I suppose.

If it was just a bit of fun then its no biggie remaining friends, but anything more serious than that gets tricky.

If the L-word is involved then friends is a definite no-no. Theres nothing wrong with remaining on speaking terms, but actual friends? marry that.

Bollocks to them. Not worth the time and have wasted my own time in the process. That way they don't get this idea that they can get an ego boost out of me by trying with their bull, "I've been thinking and maybe we can try again" without ever meaning to take it further. It saves hassle and you can both move on.

We are still in the same house until it sells.
I keep trying to keep life civil at home but Satan's sister will not allow it.
I think she views it has a sign of weekness if she is nice.
What a prat.

Can you be friends with an ex? Hmm, I think the question is too dependant on the particular situation, but personally I don't tend to start friendships with people who I've just rejected or been rejected by. I've never had a break-up where we both walked away arm-in-arm and with big smiles on our faces ready to be bosom pals. There's always going to be issues - it's why you split up in the first place.

Still, if you've invested a lot of yourself in someone and still feel a bond of freindship with them it might not be something you'd want to just sacrifice to make life easier.

they can be friends....but trust me u dont wanted to be...NO.
get over it

so can we be friends with an ex?

Well it depends on what your heart says?

Definately NOT!

It's only asking for complications. It means both of you are either uncommitted to being in the relationship or uncommitted to being out of it. Once you've been intimate, things change between you that can't go backwards emotionally, so at least one of you (and probably both of you) will always be uncomfortable together. Especially once someone else comes into the picture.

It really depends on how much is in the relationship account when you split up. If there is still plenty there, then you can still be friends.

If the account is bankrupt, then it is unlikely unless you top it up a little bit. Even then, the account is probably closed and you will not be able to get any funds in there.

In my experience some accounts go very much in the red, and some stay at the low level they were when the split occurs.

Those relationship accounts which go bankrupt, tend to be a result of circumstances which are out of control of the participants. In theory there should be no hard feelings, but in practice some people take it personally.

With the exception of one, im on good terms with all my ex's and one in particular im still very close to.

Cold turkey after a relationship is hard and not always the best way to go about it. You can't invest a lot in a person and then just pretend they never existed! Its pointless and to be honest a little cowardly. A gradual distancing is slightly better and more natural i think rather than a 'I NEVER WANT TO SPEAK TO YOU AGAIN' type of thing. just cause ye don't talk every single day anymore doesn't mean ye can't be on good terms.

There are an awful awful lot of variables to a post relationship situation, you can be overly emotional to the point you neglet plain simple reason, or lip service being reasonable to the point you pretend the residual emotional bit isn't there. Neither extreme does anyone any good. There is the competition between both to find someone else and win the 'i don't need you' anymore sweepstakes contrasted with the 'how do i tell her/him i've met someone' reluctant victories.

Keeping in touch is harder, but if its a genuine effort as opposed to a competitive or needy one, it makes you and her better people. The way i see it is i owe the effort to her, because i assume that she would make the effort for me.

i have always remained friends with my ex's, not sure if it is a good thing or not, i see more of my ex hubby now then when i was married to him! prehaps i need a life lol

Like other people have said it depends on the situation.
Ive stayed friends with my most recent ex, we enjoy a lot of the same stuff and as we just drifted apart so there wasn't any break-up nastiness.

Nope as everytime I see her, hear her etc - it ruins me all over again. Therefore, nope I can't. She swims through my veins like a fish in the sea.