Hey,

I'm not used to this kinda stuff so hopefully this is the right place to write this. I hope nobody minds me droning on!

Anyway, onto the topic at hand. I've previously been going out with a guy from Leeds and we went out for just over two years. Thing is, it was a long distance relationship and we hardly got to see each other. The more we saw each other the harder it got to leave him each time or to see him leave to go home.

So we broke up. Why? Because it was driving me mad, I couldn't handle it anymore and he hated seeing me breaking a little more each day, so we ended it. It was the best thing to do we thought. Always stay friends, keep talking regulary, etc. And that's fine. That part is absolutely fine.

Apart from that I'm now going out with someone much closer who is much older than me and I still have feelings for my ex. That'd be fine, I could hide my feelings if only he didn't feel the same way, but he does, he's told me so many times that he does. I'd be with my ex if only he lived closer or if I lived closer. I love the boyfriend I'm with now, I do. But he just doesn't do it for me. He's... not enough sexually.

So I've been having casual playtime with my manager at work (Yeah, NOT the cleverest thing I could be doing right now!). I know it's horrible of me to be doing this, and the boyfriend I'm with now is so lovely, and I DO love him. But... it's just not enough. I know how selfish that is of me! But I'm only young still?

I told him about my feelings for my ex and he seems fine with it, of course it still hurts, but I just don't know what I should do. Should I stay with him until I go to university (which'll be in just over a year's time), or should I break up with him now?

What doesn't help is that my manager has broken with his girlfriend, but she's pregnant and they're going to have a baby together VERY soon. It's only weeks away! What do I do then? Should I continue and wait to see what happens once the baby is born and see if it just ends then or what?

God, I sound like such a slut, I really don't mean to be! But... it's not enough sometimes.

Any thoughts and help would really be appreciated.

Thank you!

wow..can i have your number please?

Yeah.
Blimey, sounds to me the only person you love is yourself and the fun you want.
Do the new mum, your manager, your current boyfriend and your ex a big favor and stop using them all for your own gratification and just get out there and sow your wild oats and be done with it.
You are using an awful lot of people and abusing their right to be treated with a bit of respect just because you want to be sexually satisfied????
You obviously have no idea what real love is.
If you really loved your ex you wouldnt be screwing around with other men, let alone someone who's soon to be a new dad. Good grief, dont you have any scruples?

pmsl, ...she's going to be popular

seriously..she lives in the same county as me... i'll just follow the fish scent...


i'll bring the vaseline.. yu bring the ass

If you really love someone that much then it's easy ..pack up and move to be with him...and as for the present bloke..end it now before you end up breaking his heart..it seems to me that he loves you a little more than you will ever love him..and lastly but not leastly sack that wan*er of a manager..I mean wtf is that all about..he dumps his pregnant Mrs so he can have a bit of so called fun..DICKHEAD..

With knobs on

I agree with Alice ......... aka Rocketgirl ........... if you really loved your ex you would not be 'shaggin around' .........

Oh and you 2 naughty boys above ............ behave .........

i'm innocent

Sorry I agree with the others.

Seems to me you're not ready for any longer term relationship, you'll be better off accepting a single lifestyle so you can do what you want without playing with people's hearts.

My advice is to be single.