When a couple have started a new relationship, Becky and myself have been discussing this.

If a new relationship is working and looking to the future, we believe they should have children together, if at a child bearing age.

What do you think?
Nevermind the practicing.

gosh isn't it a bit quick to be rushing into babies?

They've had an accident
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I disagree for many reasons - income, time, actually wanting a baby are just a few. In other words if the child won't have a good life, what is the point?

How long would you wait though?

2 years, 3 years, 5 years, 7 years, 8 years, 10 years?

I think you have to wait nine months for a baby to come along.

Thought God would have known that
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Read the original post.
It says of child bearing age.
The amount of time is also up for discussion.

Well with me and Kev, we spoke about all this before we even met, not much point of going into a relationship with one who wants more kids and one who doesnt.

So, if I start a new relationship when I am 55 and my partner is 70, we SHOULD have some kids, because you say so?
We'd both be 'of child bearing age' after all.
Or is there some benchmark, say I've already had 2 kids in a previous relationship and so has my old fella, so we dont have to produce more?
From what you are saying snaith, *you* should never have had that vasectomy then eh? We *should* be expecting you and Bex to produce a sprog in about 9 months time. dont tell me you are both too old, cuz biologically thats bollocks, you just choose not to, that's all....

RG hit the nail on the head!!! They are exactly my thoughts on the subject. I will also add bringing a child into the world just because the couple think they 'should' is incredibly selfish on their part.

children are the biggest committment people can make to each other and require so much love, care, nurturing, guidance and safety in life that really before rushing into them people should try to build a good firm relationship and lets be honest that takes time - time to truly get to know each other, to love each other and create a good foundation for the future - so many broken homes nowadays, maybe if in some of those cases time had been taken to build the relationship before having children then things would be different

I think couples should really give this serious consideration, and neither should feel pressurised to agree with something as important as bringing a new life into the world.

If there is disagreement on this topic may be the relationship is doomed from the word go.

Obviously the older one is, there are more health risks to consider, especially if it's a first child.

I had my first child at 28 and back then, I was considered to be an old 'new mum'.... well until a lady came in who was 56!!........ Sh** I wouldn't want that to happen to me