I was with my ex for 8 years and never cheated on her once, I've never cheated in my life and never will, it's got to be the lowest of the low in my opinion...ironicaly we ended up splitting up with each other because she was convinced I was cheating on her!

Ive been in love with 2 people at the same time Megs, and it was really really hard. I was young and you do get into wanting more and the not cheating regime but at the time i did cheat, i never set out to do it and i can honestly say it wasnt just a love thing i loved him as a person and all that came along with him but i loved the man who was my boyfriend. It was a bit like a paralell universe and im very glad its done with.

If there is one thing that will always send my world into an out of control spiral, it is love.
That is when things are going hunky dory, so christ knows how it would affect me if I REALLY loved two people and had to choose, I really don't think I could........

I managed 30 yrs...not sure whether that is sad or a world record! even after he cheated 3 times(that i know of) Best thing i ever did was to divorce the cheating b*****d!!!!

I know i couldn't be infaithful to anyone I was seeing!!!

Sad or good?????

Neece

I hate to be all sexist here but do women really have more of a zero tolerance policy to cheating than men? Most of the "decent" women i know say absolutely not, yet most of the men I consider to be decent in all other ways seem to be more blaise about it.

Taking out of the equation love, making it just a physcial thing. Men feel free to get all irate at me here.

I didn't mean forgiveness. I meant do you think that women are less likely to cheat on their partners are than men?

I guess that depends on the woman.

Some women I know HAVE and would cheat on their partners again.

no i would say its equal. I dont quite getting cheating sometimes, does the other person you are cheating with always know you are infact cheating? I mean if I cheated with another woman, why would that woman want to be involved with me knowing that i am that type of person. All depends on the level of commitment that woman wanted i supposed...

I dont think that makes any sence does it...too confused right now...

no, never. If you wanna be with someone else then you shouldn't be in a relationship

I have never cheated, and I never will.
In recent months me and my fella drifted apart, I told him I wanted to meet someone else and joined this website - met a couple of people but it didnt feel right, even just one hour first and only meeting in a pub felt like i was cheating.....we talked and now we are back together. sort of. Havent seen him for nearly 7 weeks, even then just a quick cuppa in a cafe, but his mum is terminally ill and he is on autopilot these days, what can i say. I have to take a back seat, help where and when needed, and still i wont cheat, let alone even look at another guy.
My last fella i was with for 5 yrs and he cheated on me with a ummm 'friend'. She knew he was with me. And she lived witih her fella too. I told them when they got married good luck you are both cheats, will you stay faithful to each other? Ha! about a month later he was at my door, didnt let him in the cheeky git. They deserved each other.
I would never cheat on my fella or if i was single with a 'taken' man.

Somebody please define 'cheating'. Does it start with a thought or is it only when it becomes physical?

Towards the end of my 2nd marriage I become involved with the man who I eventually had a 4 year relationship with. We only got physical when I told my then husband our marriage was over.

How did it get even as far as it did? I still had some feelings for my ex but he was a bit of a control freak and he scared me. I also had 4 children. It took me 4 months to finally pluck up the courage to tell him it was over between us.

To those that say they could never cheat, I used to say the same thing. I never for one moment thought I was capable of such a thing!! To those that condemn 'cheaters', try walking in their shoes for a while before you judge them. There are as many reasons as there are disfunctional relationships.

I wasnt trying to judge or condemn all 'cheaters', honest! I was just saying from my own perspective, the fella that cheat on me was having love with her behind my back, and her fella too, and they only came clean cuz they wanted to get married. I was clueless about it, if they hadnt wanted to get married, how long would it have gone on?
I dont think anyone can give a clear definition of 'cheating'. Some will say its just a thought straying, some define it as just the sexual act, others will even say thats not cheating if it means nothing.....
I dont know. To me i suppose cheating could be defined perhaps as when your feelings are straying along with the physical stuff - doing anything "intimate" behind the back of the person you are 'in a relationship with' to me is cheating.
When you have feelings for someone else but stay with the other person for whatever reason - ultimately you are cheating yourself, and Redelicious I am glad you had the strength to leave like you did.
I just think cheating is one of those words like love that everyone has a different take on it, so no i wouldnt outright condemn all 'cheaters' according to my own personal scale cuz like you say, unless i walk in their shoes, who knows why what where when etc?
I can only comment from personal perspective.

ooo sorry Lilacrose!! That was never ment as a dig at you! It was ment to anyone who put all 'cheaters' under one heading. i read the thread as a whole and didn't think about who made the last comment.

Really sorry

Never felt the need or want to cheat, it disgusts me when other people do it.