Well my knowledge of what a man can and should do doesn't go far. Eventhough I was raised by my mother I still find the whole cheating thing, rudeness, hand raising thing a bit messed up. From my knowledge it's suppose to go as follows: compliment everyday; smile when you talk (even on the phone); talk about anything; have fun!

You use the term "from my knowledge" there. In talking about what a "real man" is, there is no such thing as knowledge, just opinion and idea.
I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for, but don't expect everybody to conform to it, you'll never be happy if you do.
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

Your asking for a 'real' man in a gay community?

And no, complimenting everyday loses its touch. Your compliments will slowly become worthless. Hence why i compliment once a year. When i actually mean it.

"gay community"? Have i missed something important recently?


Anyway, back on topic.

I believe a 'real man' is in the eye of the beholder. While one woman want a Brad Pitt the next wants the Bin Man (no offence to bin men but you get my drift).

That said, some of your views are just plain wrong. Not every man cheats, and for that matter many women do too. Rudeness is exactly the same...personally i hate rudeness and would hope i am not seen as such. And hand raising? I'm confused.

Individual men, just like women, have their own ups and downs, NOBODY is perfect...it's up to the single person to find what is right for them.

What are you looking for in a woman choppie ?, let's start there, do you want a one night stand, or a long term relationship, you see I’ve been looking through the forums and this ‘Good Guy’ just becoming friends with girls they want to have relationships with is all too common, men have to realise one fundamental thing :-
Attraction ISN’T a choice – but most men act as if it is. If a woman
hasn’t got that thing for you, then it's going to be nearly impossible to make any progress beyond, "I only want to be your friend."
If you ask most women what they want in a man, they will say, "I want a nice, honest, thoughtful guy who I can have fun with and talk too etc..." And the truth is, this is what most women want. But remember, there's a huge difference between what women "want" and what makes a woman feel attraction.
Attraction is triggered in a woman, through actions and emotions, and believe me being a NICE GUY won’t get that response from most women, it doesn’t mean you have to be a bad person or a bastard in anyway, it just means you have to be confident and content with who you are and what you do. Confidence and masculinity are the triggers, think about it don’t let rejection step all over you, Remember your enemies are insecurity and neediness, get over these obstacles and you’ll get over the “I just want to be your friend” WALL

I think choppie wants a pet robot as opposed to a man.

Unless he's trying to say these are my values, it makes me a real man and if you don't follow them you're not. Which, of course, is bollocks.
He does say he's looking for a female too. So i guess it is what he's saying. What a brain!
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

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francine needn some attention
wilma givn that thank u smooch
ha no im not pinchin lois' tig ol bitties
betty wonderin how the marry she ended up here

Choppie isnt coming over as gay to me. He's saying how women would like a man to be, as opposed to how he thinks mn act nowadays.

But it takes all sorts and there are all sots of men around. I never have any complaints the way I treat women

I read it the same way Itae did to be honest.

What he is talking about here is an old fashioned man with old fashioned values which are very rare species in this day and age! i agree on the compliments thing, i find daily compliments quite false and not real and mean nothing, it is when that compliment comes out of no where that puts the biggest smile on your face, even if it is once a year!