right people, very rarely do i ask for advice, i tend to just be the one to write bitchy jokey comments on other postings! Buuut..

I've been seeing a guy probably every few weeks for the last 5 months, nothing serious, it was srictly love around his then off i go in the morning, a little like a dirty stop out. We had love on our second date together, well i went back to his. I think we had more love than we did conversation but it worked. But as time has gone on we've enjoyed more of each others company, and even watch a film instead of getting right to it.

Anyway i hadn't seen him for at least two months ( although we had regular contact via phone) due to christmas and us both working long hours we couldn't really seee each other, but he asked me out to dinner the other night! I was thinking woah dinner & love, i am in for a treat, but surely if i was just considered a marry buddy of whom i consider his ass to be, why would he bother taking me out to dinner when he well knows he would get love from me anyway? He made cocktails for me at his, booked the table in town for 9pm, had a beautiful dinner with a £22 bottle of white fancy wine then back to his for dessert of which was "space cakes" ( which were lovely) and icecream! Then we had fantastic love.

But the conversation through the night was unlike the convos we had previously, we both couldnt stop talking! He grabbed my hand walking through town too! I just don't want to think something is in it if there isn't. I never had feelings for him before nor did i fancy him when we were just friends with benefits, but he really went to town! He suited and booted himself, told me i looked great. Hes 35, so he's alot older, but i just don't know if i'm reading more into it ! I fancy the pants off him now, which i was hoping not to get feelings involved in this situation! somebody must have some sort of advice!

It sounds to me as if he has developed stronger feelings for you, otherwise he wouldn't have gone to all the trouble.

It also sounds as if you have had the surprise of your life by him doing that, and now you aren't sure if there could be more there?

My advice is try not to over-think things. If you try to label it, put it in a nice little box and confine it to only being that, then you might miss out.

Just keep an open mind, try not to think about it too much, and just keep enjoying each others company. Time will tell where it goes. And if it goes nowhere, then so be it.
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wise words ^^^^^^
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Defo wise words. Enjoy the change!

All agreed, go for it girl!!!
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Agree with baggie.

Sounds like you two need to have a chat, and find out what kind of relationship you both want.

Just casually ask him does he want more??

Good luck anyways

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Oh, Boobeyyyyyyyyy !

Does sound like it's turnin' into more than love buddies. Scary, huh?

In the end, it's your call... You know what they say, you gotta love like you've never been hurt before... Ah, risks, risks...

Good luck with whatever you choose !

Maybe he just felt like treating you ? I know i over think things, but it was just a meal !

Of course, if he declares his undying love for you then that'll just confirm that i really do know marry all about dating !
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tbh rarely does a 'marry buddy' make an effort! I mean if you both know thats all it is and neither has to make the effort, then why the need to take you out for a meal? Like you said, he would have been getting it anyway so there is a high possibility that maybe he is starting to see you as more but id be weary about making a move because ive been in situations where i read into it and then made myself look like a fool and lost a good weekend shag buddy! so i would just wait and see, carry on meeting up like you normally do and if he suggests a meal again, just make a joke and be "like why all the meals suddenly, not fallin for me are you... well i cant blame you!" Im pretty sure you could pull it off and maybe get the answer to your question!