Ok so Im new to this but I am really surprised how some blokes feel ok sending a complete stranger a dirty message by way of introduction.(what happened to hi?)I kinda assumed that the persons profile options would cbe a hint as to that persons perference ? The worlds a mixed bag..we all like different things ,thats cool but hey do those guys actually read the profiles or is it a job lot approach?
what do ya reckon? [/b]

I think you'll get a mixed bag of responses, some just click on a 'mug shot' when they see who's on-line and don't read the profiles, others read them and use what they've read for their messages, and some, it's a quick scan over and others are going to just be rude to anyone. I do know that some men paste and copy messages and send to a lot of women.
Don't be disheartened I'm sure you'll get some polite and friendly messages soon, there are some lovely guys on site.....I'm just living in the wrong place

we dont all crawl on our bellies. but you girls are right in what you say some guys are just doing this for the obvious reasons but so are some girls.

Thanks for that guys. Of course i only see it from the womans point of view and I guess that some woman do the same to blokes!! Thats certainly given me a different perspective...

Thanks for that guys. Of course i only see it from the womans point of view and I guess that some woman do the same to blokes!! Thats certainly given me a different perspective...

Yeah, I've heard some stories about how some women treat the men on here too and they can be downright NASTY so I'm pretty sure it all goes both ways.....and then some people message after they've had a few drinks and maybe that's not the best time to be messaging.

Ok so I am clear on the erotic messages things.Thanks for your replies.Next question..a curiosity more than anything. Why do married individuals(as opposed to seperated ) seek extra? i really dont get it. Surely the whole point of making the point of being married is that you decide to shop at home, so to speak? dont quite see the point of being married otherwise? i could just call myself hopelessly old-fashioned but I reckon the concept of marriage is the same in any era?i bet there are many possible dimensions to this question so..what do ya reckon?

Loveless unhappy marriages where breaking up seems to be more difficult than staying together.
So to is the "we just go our separate ways"
Different sex drives (frequently due to other stresses in their lives), one partner disabled, needing something more exciting than their partner is prepared to do, loneliness just wanting to have someone to talk to.....these are just some of the reasons that I've been given, but mostly if you just tell a guy that you're not interested because they're married or in a serious relationship they'll just say it's a shame and try the next woman.
I just think it's sad that couples don't always seem to even try to work things out before planning to 'cheat'.

Right im gonna move this thread to love & realtionships cos its not really about meet ups or anything...so whoosh to L & R we go
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its sad fact of computer dateing there are all types of wonderfull and the total opposite weird men and women out there!!
when I receive a contact with any referance to my body I hit delete.
I wish there was a site one could publish these peoples wonderfull emails and their email names on !!!!,the same site could also display the email names and received emails of the game players\\ men and women// who multi play with the hearts and the love of honest singles,just stringing them along with lies,

down with sleeze and computer game players