According to some research, on average it takes 12 partners until you finally know what you want.

The only problem is, you might be the 1st, 2nd....11th partner yourself when you finally found your 12th partner

So encourage them to sleep around a bit to fill their quota

Damn I knew I was going wrong somewhere

After 12 partners do you become increasingly fussy? So that by 20 there are only 5 people in the world compatible with you?

It is not about "love partnes" - so shagging around would not speed up the process.

It is not necessarily a matter of becoming more and more selective, sometimes it only means you start prioritising differently....and certain things become more important or less important.

But the truth still is, that there are so many singles out there because often expectations and standards are too high...

Hmmm yes and if everyone is looking for their perfect partner, they wouldn't need to change either, but be accepted exactly as they are......otherwise they wouldn't be the perfect partner.

I think it's always easier to identify what you really don't want in a partner rather than what you do want.

The perfect partner doesn't have to be 'perfect' nobody is, but it's about a partner being perfect for you, and as long as I can accept someone unconditionally and that they do the same with me then we would get on, but any sign of possessiveness, jealousy and control..... I'm off!