why does it seem so difficult when you are bi-curious to find a girl to be your first...help please

well... maybe you are not sure yourself, then its hard for bi/les girls to see who you really are. if you understand what i am trying to say.

the age old questions.
there is such a divide between bi and lesbians, i really dont know why that is, but it seems that if your bi, your kind of greedy so to speak. thats why a lot of lesbians stick together, and will only date other lesbians.

its all a bit silly really, i mean if your attracted to blokes but sleep with women does that make you bi or lesbian. it all depends on how you title yourself.

thankyou for your comments but as i am attracted to women and turned on by them i know it is something i want

Making the first breakthrough seems hard but believe me it's well worth the wait! Usually when your not looking for it you find it. my first was my driving instructress

why does it seem so difficult when you are bi-curious to find a girl to be your first...help please


I am having the very some problem I am from berkshire and finding it really hard to met bi girls


S x

Hi its the same here in Hastings, they say the first step is the Hardest.
But as you say making that first meeting happen can be very frustrating. All I would say is keep looking and it will happen.

take care ladies

Hey I am a lesbian, i know now, but having the exact same problem

I dont even know where to start, and i really want to, but as i never even had a boyfriend before i realised i was gay, which makes it twice as hard. I am a little disabled (I walk with a stick now) due to childhood arthris, so when my friends at school, then college then uni were hitting puberty and interested in boys I thought the whole idea of sex repulsive, i didn't know it was because i was gay then, and i was in and out of hospital alot as a kid so i never learned to even flirt. When i asked my friends and even my little sister how to chat someone up or even get a date, they said they didn't know, they just did it, which doesn't help me much. I am 31 now and make friends easily but get very embarrassed or go if i fancy someone! anyone out there who could advise me? as i have a stargate con in london in Nov and i know a lot of lesbians will be there as i have seen girls snogging at past events, but really need some advise on making the first step, just how do you flirt? or even chat someone up? i haven't a clue as i never learned

Ta scorpio

sorry, rant time - the assupmtion that bi people are greedy is such nonsense and i get v tired of it - there are plenty of "greedy" people both gay and straight who are not choosy about who they sleep with - i'm extremely fussy about many things when it comes to who i fancy, it's just gender is not one of them. being bi does not mean i fancy twice as many people as anyone else!! it just means i don't mind gender in the way most people don't mind eye colour. my selection criteria are based on other things!

I dont even think its got to do with being greedy. A lot of lesbians are "weary" of bi-sexual women. They cant understand how they can sleep with a woman one night then hop to a man the next when there are such differences between the two species.. and I dont mean the obvious ones lol..
This is not my rant but just what I have experienced and heard...

I totally agree with you ladybug.

I read somewhere once that some lesbians are weary of bi-sexual woman because they dont want to be used by someone just experimenting with their sexuality.

Well my ex girlfriend said that lesbians are wary of bi girls because there are some out there who are married or with someone but chase young girls, some who've never been with a woman before (and lesbians) just for fun and once they've had them they don't want them any more. Just users but it puts us bi girls in the wrong light. Tho I've only known about liking girls for the past 2 years, the idea of a woman one night and a man the next sounds downright rude and nasty - I've realised that apart from much preferring the enjoyment of turning women on as opposed to men, I think I would rather spend the rest of my life with women than men.

Hi to you all.

Lisalouxx

hi there lisalou and welcome to the madness that is the forum. feel free to wander in wonder and take a sneaky peek at what some of us get up to lol