Sweetlisa90 your right to point out that men are by nature superficial, its the way we are hardwired to think, and any man who says otherwise is lying, men and women are very different that is undeniable, from a man’s perspective a woman has to have certain physical attributes before she even opens her mouth to talk, if she doesn’t or indeed has a problem with her own self esteem and so devalues herself then she will be treated as such. The point is that it all starts with you, to be blunt if you look bad, do something about it, if your miserable, well get some help, don’t expect your prince to come along till you do something about yourself, when you begin to like who you are then your results with guys will change, but guys will be guys and a hot chick is what a guy likes even if he is average himself, its in our genes and we cant help it

Sorry guys, but a woman will actually read someone’s profile story, whereas a guy will sift through the pics, yes it is true that the profile photo is important for both sexes to get that initial response but a woman will spend a lot more time on what a guy has to say about themselves. Guys go for looks, women also go for looks but will give a guy a chance if they come across as someone interesting even though they are distinctly average in there appearance.

A chicks not that ugly when shes sucking on my dick

Men are afriad to be men. They afraid to let the chick know what they want. There afriad to say "look i just want love" if shes not ok with him being honest theres something wrong with her.

Men are hardwired too look for beauty first. Women are not better because they are hardwired to be more turned on by a guys personality than his looks, thats just the way it is, like men being born physically stronger. So get the marry over it and have love as much as you want or can. Live your life. If your looking for more then mabie you need to work on yourself instead of sitting back and rasing the standards of the men in your lives to a bar that is very hard to find

So are you saying that guys and girls think alike? In some respects maybe we do, but I really think that there is a big difference in the approach to attraction here, men and women are psychologically different, a mans view on attraction is purely sexual whereas a woman view is more complex and has to do with the mood she is in as well as umpteen other nuances,
take for example all the stuff a man has been programmed to think before approaching a woman:-

I need to convince women that I'm worthy of their approval.

I shouldn't upset a woman.

I'd better not mess this up, because I have a lot to lose.

If she rejects me, it will be an important event and carry a lot of meaning.

I had better impress her as often as I can.

I should let her be in control.

If attractive women aren't interested in me, then I must be the problem.

"Nice" guys finish first, and I had better be "nice" to women.

All this is instilled in us from birth by our mothers and society in general,
Guys are different because we have to try harder, and so we are pushed to look at aesthetics rather than the whole package, and internet dating sites make that whole game even more clinical and impersonal.

As this has been done to death and it's in the fun and games section maybe it should become a game.

Guys don't go for what's on the inside because...

You're lower intestine just isn't that pretty.
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

I seriously don't think it can be generalised in that way. Every individual on the face of the earth is unique, has unique set of choices just like us, ladies. Women too go for looks/dick size/money more than what's on the inside. On the contrary, there are both-men & women who really look for someone special, nice-hearted.