why is it that all men i meet seem to care more about a girl wearing short skirts and looking fit than what a girl has to offer from the inside rather than the outside? can any1 tell me???

Sometimes it just seems that way but you will hear a similar thing from men on here, that they think women are only interested in looks, or the size of a guy's wallet.... and I seem to get all the guys who just wana show me their dicks
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Guys seem to have this unquenchable lust for what one purpose..what a girl can give them in all aspects. men are so selfish and self indulged into their own world, where the blood flow seems to cease going to their heart. Their emotions are so cut off, so afraid of what could actually happen if only they simply...tried. I spent my whole life watching such an unfortunate yet undeniable truth, watching so many women stand by and take the emotional beating with no justice to be served. Women have fragile hearts, and with that such hearts must b tended to with constant affection...most guys cut themselves off from this idea, yet somewhere inside i'm sure their heart is screaming to b desired. You cannot make them see my dear, but you know what you feel and what u desire internally, and if such a pure feeling like love is to enter your heart...let it find you...don't let the absence of a guy's affection numb you from letting you feel what your heart truly wants to feel....

Now there are some pretty nice guys out there, who are out for love, but, well... They're just not our types.

I don't think the question applies to men in general, but to the human kind.

What for men is hot legs, for women may as well be a cute face... We're all visual, it just seems men are more visual than women sometimes.

However a lot of it is a question of attitude. When you look at yourself in the mirror what do you see? As Gerry Butler would put it, would you (frick ) make love to yourself? If you would, then show it to the world with your attitude.

(I have no idea what I'm sayin, I just wanted to comment, but I lost it on the way, never mind )

I think GJ could answer this best.

Same reason women do the EXACT same thing. Its not just men that do it.

I feel on a scale of 1-10, I'm about a 2. I have no horrid features, I don't have a big wart on my nose, or three eyes... But I'm not good looking either. I can't go into a random place and pull a random woman, because chances are she will look at me and think "not on my level, no chance".

The trouble is, EVERYBODY does this. Even me. I just have so low standards about myself it means I hardly ever do it... But everybody does it.

Would you honestly say that if a guy came over to you and was the most friendly person in the world, you would give him a chance...... if his face was covered in crumbs, half his hair was missing in patches, he stunk of BO, spat when he spoke and weighed 28 stone...? You would run a mile. I WOULD RUN A MILE.

However, "FIT" is a term I can not stand... You see to me "FIT" just means "Up herself ugly ass bitch with too much make up on and not a care about anything in the world other than her self". Thats the general term, anyway... FIT doesn't mean looks after herself anymore, it simply means "man, she be well fit innit", which most of the time means shes got the personality of a door.

When I look for a lady, I wont lie, looks DO play a part in it. I'm human, I can't say otherwise. I don't like large women, but amazingly I also don't like ultra skinny women. I like average. I like a little extra on the sides. Thats just me. But while I wouldn't go for the example person above with the bad BO, I also wouldn't go for some lass in a mini skirt who threw herself at me... Thats not my type of attraction, not my type of woman at all.

So, whats FIT to me...? Whats attractive, to me? A woman who has a small bit of self doubt. I love that. I love a woman who to me is so drop dead amazingly attractive, but to herself shes not sure. I love a woman who likes a laugh, but isn't a slut. A woman who likes a drink at the end of the week, but doesn't throw up over herself. Most men my age go for the "woman of the week" type, where they can shag them, then sod them off. Me? I can't do that. I've never been the stud type. I've only had love with a few women, but each one I've gotten to know before hand, each one I've waited until the relationship and she was ready. its more romantic that way.

So in reply to the OP...

While you may curse yourself for not finding a guy who sees what you are like on the inside... Would you really want a guy who is so shallow he doesnt care about you at all and is only with you because you are "fit"...?
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lol wtf.. i go for inside and outside, do it inside and outside, and i would hope i emotionally touch their insides to make them feel special until they start to show that self esteem glow on the outside
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I always go for what's inside....the large flat screen tv's, sound systems, jewellery in the bedrooms, it all sells well on ebay!

Has this topic not been done already? I seem to remember having my say already!!!

Right im slightly confused here since when is someone that is 'fit' "Up herself ugly ass bitch with too much make up on and not a care about anything in the world other than her self" and "means shes got the personality of a door. Im also slightly confused that cos a woman wears a mini skirt (we really dont call them that now a days) means she is going to throw herself at you?? Does that mean if a 'lass' has a low cut top on shes gunna let you stick your head between her tits??? Also the reference to the word 'slut' am i to presume that if a girl has a laugh and a giggle she is a slut????

See what i have just read here is just stereo
typing and because of this and peoples stone-age opinions is what gives women that like to make an effort when they go out a complex and also a bad name. See the girl thats wearing the makeup on a night out, really has insecurities and is just trying to look nice and make HERSELF feel a bit better about herself. What about the girl that is wearing a short skirt? so what maybe she has fantastic legs and wants to show them off, why? cos she too probably has insecurities too. Also the girl that is having a laugh and flirting, is she a slut? High chance shes not but she likes to enjoy herself, who doesnt feel better after getting a bit of attention, if you say no then your just a liar.
Maybe that girl does have a fantastic personality but how would you know? You have already passed judgment and made your own opinions so you will never know!!! Maybe that person isnt your type then fair enough, we all have different tastes in what we look for and find attractive. What i find 'fit' in a man is no doubt different to the next girl, so please dont stereotype!

We cant have love with your personality.

Also, im sure you wouldnt be posting this if you were good looking.. As is always the way, and im sure if you suddenly found beauty you would be looking at the face before the personality. Just as we all do. I dont care if you can make me laugh 24/7 and occupy my mind 24/7 if you're dog ugly and have more bingo wings than KFC.

Preferences for looks is one of the failings of net dating, especially forums. Probably more so then real life.

It's not our fault! Usually women notice the cocky, self assured guys who often turn out to be after only one thing, or treat them badly.

The nice guys are have had all their confidence sapped by being rejected time and time again by women who just don't see them as viable partners - probably because they lack the "edge" that the bastards have.

Women have to take some responsibility for this situation, after all they keep choosing the same type of man again and again, while the quieter, less self assured men are left by the wayside.

accept urself for who u really are then find ur opposite for attraction.. as for me, im neither cocky nor nice, neither ugly nor handsome, fit nor unfit, smart nor stupid, fat nor skinny dammit, im just a goddamn martian who throws his flag up and see who salutes


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Not all guys are like that... personally I find intelligence and a good heart most attractive. Looks do have some bearing on it but that whole thing has been covered in other posts so I won't go over it again.

I've been with girls from size 6 to size 18-20. If I find them fun to be around, if they make me feel good inside and if they have a breath taking smile then I'm good to go.

To be honest though girls who prance round in short skirts make me instantly think 'she's the kinda girl to come home with a broken heel, sick in her hair and piss down her legs'. There's nothing attractive about looking like a whore... unless of course it's in the privacy of your own home if you;re into that stuff. Modesty in dress and personality goes a very very long way. Any guys I think that ONLY go for girls with big tits, blonde hair and short skirts are just as scummy as the girls they end up fucking and leaving... usually with an STI.

But yeah... rant over. Personality is the most important thing to me.