with this site any tips hints or best places to talk am abit lost

First tip is check you're in the right section before starting topics, look through what other people have said before andyou'll get along fine. LV will along to lock this shortly, I'd try the "Advice" or "Flirtbox Help" sections.
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.