Is it really too much to ask for a genuinly nice,good looking decent guy nowadays? I am a 30 yr old single mum of 2, and the guys i meet seem to be scared of being around kids, clingly and needy, or resemble mr bean! Anyone else having the same trouble???

probably not

ooo u do sound bitter..me thinks that scoz i said i dont fancy u!! well get over it, thats life! alot of ppl dont fancy me either but i dont get funny bout it..

what answer did you want?..by the sounds of it no one is good enough for you.

i didnt expect an answer..in wat way does the subject apply to you exactly?? it dosnt does it!
and yes im sure there are lots of guys out there i find appealing, but unlike some ppl i wont settle for second best, and that is def not a bad thing!

Not sure if its me or you that is coming over bitter?

Just answering your question..in more ways then one. Its a question that has been asked more then once on these forums.

By the way, this will probably be closed soon as its not strictly in the right place. Not really fun and games.

well it was spose to be, untill u butted in

okay sorry, didnt mean to spoil your fun thread

bambini wrote:

Is it really too much to ask for a genuinly nice,good looking decent guy nowadays? I am a 30 yr old single mum of 2, and the guys i meet seem to be scared of being around kids, clingly and needy, or resemble mr bean! Anyone else having the same trouble???

Define what you mean by 'clingy and needy', you may be confusing it for someone who is more tactile. I love to cuddle for example and will often take any opportunity to have a hug, even if it's a quick hug in the kitchen as we pass. Nothing clingy or needy about it, I just like to show my affection. Maybe you're one of those who tend to shy away from it and don't go for too much physical contact. Shame because you're good looking from what I can see and a most guys are going to want to be near you a lot.

Younger guys will often be 'scared' of kids. It's not a fear but more a case of not knowing how to interact with them. It used to do me in years ago because for some weird reason, kids seem to just take to me without a problem. Now, I can interact and 'become' a kid myself when they want to play. I love kids now and I have friends who are not as affectionate with their kids, the kids love it when I visit because they know "uncle Dale" will always give them a cuddle. I often end up with two or more kids parked on my lap until I leave or until mum or dad announces that it's their bed time.

Forget the good looking. The more you refine your choice, the less results you're going to get. Most of the good looking guys are going to be taken whether they are 'good guys' or not. Many are real bastards because they know they can get another girl easily. Also, looks don't last forever but personality and personal values change very little.

When it comes down to it, it's your choice though but you'll be in for a long dry spell or dating a few shits unless you broaden your view a bit.

Try looking for something with a little more than just good looking Bambini! Brains,Loving and caring spring to mind! Then some of your other criteria may fall into place!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Don't hate me because I'm beautiful.

yep, i defo hear wat u and tyrst are saying! i do generally go for brains and sense of humour anyway, it would just be nice to have the whole package if you know what i mean?
I duno about you guys..but i rly want to fancy the person im dating! When u stert something off you cant keep your hands off each other, which is a great feeling..and im sorry if i sound shallow, but i rly to feel that i wana rip my partners clothes off when they walk in the room..or its just guna fizzle out rly quick! In the past my ex's have all been good looking and fit, plus had fantastic personalities too...but lately just finding they are harder to find.
eventhough i prob sound very shallow and up myself, im actually not atall, instead only having half the package and dreaming i had more, id rather look for th perfect guy and not settle for second best...

It's possible Bambini that you will find that true romance could come from unexpected quarters? try conversation with people forget the pwoar he's fit attitude and talk to people and you might be pleasantly surprised!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Gotta ask this....

bambini wrote:

In the past my ex's have all been good looking and fit, plus had fantastic personalities too...

in that case do you think it could be you and not them to blame for them becoming ex's?

I take being clingy and needy as someone who wants a lot of attention and is around all the time...probably needing a lot of support.

I like hugging and cuddling, but I'm far from clingy or needy. Probably the opposite.


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