Hey, ive sent absolutely loads of messages to women on this site and i've had no replies . Is my profile and picture not appealing or am i just doing somthing wrong?

have you sent a message to yourself yet?

yeah, i tried it to test it and it worked. i think its more a reluctance of evryone else on the site

One thing Ive found is that there are more men on dating sites than women so women can pick and choose who they want to write to, and the nice girls with pictures might get loads of messages a day - how do they decide who to answer? Pot luck maybe?

What are you writing to say hello? Is it an original line, something funny? Or hello, will you chat to me?

Some people dont put their picture on dating web sites and that cuts down the number of mails they get so that the people who write to them will have read what their profile says and decided they like what they read rather than going on looks alone - try writing to people with no picture (Oh, no picture doesnt mean they arnt attractive - its normally the opposite!)


There are loads of possible reasons,

I think Toby has a point as well, check that you can send messages by sending one to yourself - no point in writing if there is a setting wrong and they wont get them.

Oh, your opening line. Dont start with an appology, start with something good and posotive like the next sentance. Your description reads OK without it

Contact the ones that are online!

That usually works!

I'm not really great at the whole making contact thing (this may be part of my problem) i tend to find girls with similar interest or wanting similar things. i will say hi, tell them i liked thier profile and if we are into the same things and say that if they want to chat then feel free..... well somthing along those lines. it would be nice if they just gave me a not interested, atlest its honest

Have you checked the last time some of these girls were online?? Sometimes you may find that some of them havent been on in months!!

you have 8 replies now...at least on here!

Yes, but she has written twice!

It must be that when you get a reply the girls just love talking to you Mike.

I think if you look around there is a thread somewhere for what to say in the first message, ideas and things to write about.

Here are a couple of links that might give you some tips

http://www.flirtbox.net/anything_else/message-guide-for-beginners-.html

http://www.flirtbox.net/dating/non-reply-to-messages.html