This thread is confusing me now - working, budget for london, psychology of the homeless....

I read a lot of books about man's more primitive nature. We evolved to live on the African savannah, and our natural instincts are designed for this.
It's all extremely interesting stuff, and I find it incredibly useful in day to day life.
It helps me to understand peoples behaviours and motives, why men like power tools and women like shopping etc.
Obviously these are sweeping generalisations and don't apply equally to all people, but as a rough guide it is pretty accurate.

When we were evolving, life was a lot tougher than we have it nowadays and when a woman was pregnant or nursing her child, she would have been extremely vulnerable. This is why women seek out men who are caring, strong, and who have access to resources. Men like to feel that they are looking after and protecting their partner and attending to their needs.
This is a very cynical and analytical way of looking at things, but it is often so true that it is scary. It is also what we would call outdated and sexist, so don't take it too seriously.

In the modern world it is slightly skewed, but you can still see the patterns if you look hard enough.

When a man and a woman go out to dinner, the man often has a strong desire to pay (something that may even be frowned upon nowadays) This is because he wants to tell the woman that if she mates with him, he has the resources and good nature to look after her when she is pregnant.
Same thing when he buys her flowers or little presents. Same thing when he buys status symbols.
Resources.

Stoney, if you want to attract a woman, you need to acquire some resources. If these were caveman times, the object of your affections would shun you for the guy with the big warm cave because if she mated with you she and her baby would most likely die.

You don't have to be loaded to have these resources, and being stupid with money only demonstrates that you are reckless, but you do need the basics.
You will not get a woman before you get shelter.

You seem like a reasonably intelligent guy- why don't you sit in a library one day and read some books on the subject? I suggest starting with 'human instinct' by Robert Winston- he has an engaging writing style.

Another point- when you say about nobody fancying you, you are really saying 'several other women have rejected me- I am an unsuitable mate'. Do you think that women would find that attractive?

Before I sit back and wait for the flames to start, I would like to say that this kind of thing is by no means black and white and is an extremely stereotypical and simplistic way of looking at the world. Not all of it applies to all people and there are exceptions to every rule. Take it with a pinch of salt....

actually doctorbeat, you do have some valid points in your post..

i also think age is a big thing too, a few years ago i would of wanted someone for diff reasons then i do now.. as i get older my needs change so what i want in a man changes too