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Home >> Dating >> Y cant i find a nice guy
01.07.2008, 11:41 quote
| angelarose20 wrote: |
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Advertising other dating sites is kind of frowned upon.
01.07.2008, 12:11 quote
| CMISO wrote: | ||
Advertising other dating sites is kind of frowned upon. |
01.07.2008, 13:06 quote
| DeepthroatH wrote: |
| Jegs you are so right.
Works both ways too - come across as needy and pathetic and partners will run a mile.... |
So very true!
03.07.2008, 18:18 quote
just as a point of interest, i've just sat and read this hole post and well i have a question that no-one seems to have asked...
What do you 'deem' as a nice guy ?
it's all well and good us fella's jumpin up n down sayin yeah i'm nice, but if it's not your definition of nice...
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If there really is to be a soul mate out there, I think your soul mates are those people who make you feel at home, wherever you are. That hearing their voices and knowing they're close to you (even if in thought) makes you feel at ease. |
03.07.2008, 18:24 quote
| s6boystu wrote: |
| just as a point of interest, i've just sat and read this hole post and well i have a question that no-one seems to have asked...
What do you 'deem' as a nice guy ? it's all well and good us fella's jumpin up n down sayin yeah i'm nice, but if it's not your definition of nice... |
This is what I meant in the thread about "treat 'em mean...."
One person's 'nice' is another person's wimp...one person's 'not so nice' is another person's "big and strong' -- And even the nastiest man who gets pissed and beats his missus is going to say "I'm nice, I buy her fine jewelry and remember her birthday"....but the guy who never gets nasty, drunk or beats his wife isnt so 'nice' cuz he doesnt lavish expensive gifts on his missus and forgets her birthday?
03.07.2008, 20:41 quote
Haven't you figured it out yet... women don't KNOW what they mean by a "nice guy" - that's why they spend twelve years trawling dating sites without being able to find one.
03.07.2008, 20:43 quote
| moose666 wrote: |
| Haven't you figured it out yet... women don't KNOW what they mean by a "nice guy" - that's why they spend twelve years trawling dating sites without being able to find one. |
I fear you may well be right there Moose!
03.07.2008, 21:14 quote
There are lots of nice guys out there. This country some of the women believe in money and fast cars and some are more worried about their careers. Sometimes things like this do happen so that when u do find a nice guy, u can defferentiate between the bad and the good ones. Sometimes we laugh and sometimes we cry but life never tell us why we do and why things like this do happen. Keep your chin up and always be yourself x x x
04.07.2008, 19:04 quote
maybe your standards are to high? not in a harsh way. alot of girls i have spoken to are waiting for prince charming. it kinda dosent work like that. im not saying get with some loser like me but im just saying maybe you look into certin things too much. i dunno tbh 
06.07.2008, 11:43 quote
| balin2k wrote: |
| maybe your standards are to high? not in a harsh way. alot of girls i have spoken to are waiting for prince charming. it kinda dosent work like that. im not saying get with some loser like me but im just saying maybe you look into certin things too much. i dunno tbh |
I've said pretty much the same thing on here several times and always get slagged for it...
06.07.2008, 12:36 quote
| moose666 wrote: | ||
I've said pretty much the same thing on here several times and always get slagged for it... |
I think in today's secular throw away society a lot of people are looking for perfection because when they contintuously dont find it they dont bat an eye lid moving on to the next possible conquest. And yes moral values have changed, insofar as people live together without getting married, its so easy these days to move on when its not perfect. Even buying a house isnt something to put their mind's to in a long-term way.
How many youngsters these days get married, buy a house within their means - in the long term - making sure its near a good school for future kids, a good place to live and die....No, couples just rent a flat any old place, when Dave or Tracey does not live up to expectations there is no incentive to bother to try to work things out, its a case of move out and move on.
And I said 'secular' because alot of people are no longer driven by any basic moral coding based on religious teachings - not saying that is how it SHOULD be - but how many people forgive, accept and recognise their own imperfections? More likely to happen if you retained summat you learned in sunday school, I think. Of course, alot of people have a good basic moral coding without religious interference.....Of course, lots of people are lovely and damn-near perfect and total atheists, and thats good too, just fewer of them from what I see around me.
Nowadays it seems to be all about getting a good regular shag, from someone who NEVER puts a foot wrong or acts in a way not acceptable to you, and if the shag gets boring, or drifts away, or your man/woman niggles you a little bit, no harm done, move on, there's plenty more fish in the sea.
We have become a society of intolerant people looking for instant gratification - anything or anyone that doesnt come up to scratch - be it a job or a mate - or a few niggles arise, people just shrug it off as a mistake and carry on searching for something better.
Just look on here - people who dont bother to respond to a PM from someone who on the surface of it doesnt seem worth bothering with, Am I too fat? Am i too this/that/whatever/whats wrong with me/why cant i get a shag/find a nice bloke/etc. etc.
There are plenty of 'nice' blokes/woman. But each and every one of them at some point in time will say or do summat that you dont understand/agree with/approve of. Simple As.
The answer is: You never will find Mr/Mrs Perfect. He/she doesnt exist. YOU are not perfect either, no one is. The sooner we all accept that, the more chance we all have of settling down and being truly happy.
Right, off my soapbox and I await the daggers flying while I collect the spilled apples off the lane again!
06.07.2008, 14:28 quote
| rocketgirl wrote: |
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We have become a society of intolerant people looking for instant gratification - anything or anyone that doesnt come up to scratch - be it a job or a mate - or a few niggles arise, people just shrug it off as a mistake and carry on searching for something better. |
Pretty much hits the nail on the head, I think. I've been on dates with women who have made absolutely NO effort whatsoever; as soon as you walk in you can see their brain going, "Oh no. His nose is slightly larger than it looks in his photo! This is never going to work. Won't bother making an effort."
I had one woman who fucked about on her phone, taking calls and texting etc, every five minutes while we were on our date. I put up with being interrupted by her phone every time I tried to speak for a short while, then told her she was bloody rude and we might as well abandon the date. I can't abide rudeness. Why even bother going on a date if you're not even going to pay attention to them?
I had another one quite recently who fucked off while I was in the bogs having a piss, I got back and sat there like a plum for 15 mins before realising what she'd done - then I got a text from her saying, "I didn't have the guts to say to your face it wasn't going to work, so I left." At that point we had been sitting in the bar for roughly 20 minutes and she'd sat there like a cunt (sorry) making hardly any effort to even talk to me. Needless to say my reply to that text wasn't very polite or civil. First time in my life I'd ever had anyone actually sneak out on me, haha.
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| The answer is: You never will find Mr/Mrs Perfect. He/she doesnt exist. YOU are not perfect either, no one is. The sooner we all accept that, the more chance we all have of settling down and being truly happy. |
Unfortunately I don't think most women (I say women because obviously I'm speaking from a man's perspective) on dating sites are ever going to realise or accept this. It seems like one of the problems is that they have totally unrealistic expectations of dating sites - they all think they're going to sign up and immediately find some film star or something. It's like they see the Internet as a magical place that makes them 100 times better and more attractive than they actually are in real life.
Dating sites are shit. I'm seeing someone from another site at the moment and it's going quite well, but if this one doesn't work out I don't think I will be coming back to internet dating again. Too much of a pain in the arse, I'll see what other means of meeting people are out there.
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