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29.05.2008, 08:35 quote

tallncute

I'm new to this online dating thing. Think I have gone about it the wrong way. I've jumped in asking gals out to the cinema in first message, how should I go about it? Msn first?

 

29.05.2008, 08:51 quote

LittleVixen
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Hi & welcome tallncute to the forums...I would say message a few times first & see how it goes then if you feel you click move on to msn, maybe move on to text & later if all goes well speak on the phone, you will know when the time is right...just take it slowly & dont rush into anything......also come on to the forums as its a great way to meet peeps & make friends.

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29.05.2008, 09:07 quote

tallncute

Thanks for the info. Well thats about 20 write offs then! *@#!

 

29.05.2008, 16:10 quote

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BTW in my opinion cinema isn't a very good first date, its difficult to talk and get to know a person in dark and quiet cinema...
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29.05.2008, 16:26 quote

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Hi & Welcome ........ Just be yourself, if your the forward type, no messing type of guy, then thats good in my book, but maybe not on the first message.......

Not to put a downer on things though, if you get chatting to someone, dont always believe what that have to say ....... it is a dating site after all and if there not willing to meet you after chatting for a few weeks ........ then they probably never will ..... Twisted Evil

Have fun and like Freda said the forums are mostly full of nice genuine people ...... x

 

29.05.2008, 20:37 quote

tallncute

Chet24 wrote:
BTW in my opinion cinema isn't a very good first date, its difficult to talk and get to know a person in dark and quiet cinema...

You could go for a drink afterwards?!!! or before for that matter...or even go for something to eat. N you can't forget the chatting that is done before and after the movie!

 

29.05.2008, 20:42 quote

Chet24
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tallncute wrote:
Chet24 wrote:
BTW in my opinion cinema isn't a very good first date, its difficult to talk and get to know a person in dark and quiet cinema...

You could go for a drink afterwards?!!! or before for that matter...or go for something to eat N you can't forget the chatting that is done before and after the movie!


True but what I'm getting at his that in a cinema all conversation stops and you can't do much other than watch the movie. The object of a first date is to get to know a person and for me personally I would like as much time as possible over the course of an evening.

On the other hand if it goes really well then you could just not watch the movie and do other stuff!!!
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31.05.2008, 10:46 quote

browolf
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tallncute wrote:
I'm new to this online dating thing. Think I have gone about it the wrong way. I've jumped in asking gals out to the cinema in first message, how should I go about it? Msn first?


you need to talk to them long enough so they're comfortable and short enough that they dont start getting emotionally attached to your internet persona or you to theirs. This time frame is a week maybe 2 at most.

After that, you want to have a casual meeting, like lunch, not a date because people are frequently somewhat different to how they seemed on the net. You think you like them but you can't be sure till you've met them in an low pressure environment.

 

06.06.2008, 21:11 quote

tallncute

cheers for the input people!

 
 
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