oh ffsake.

What a generalisation. You're not really asking a question here. You're asking us to explain why you can't get a serious boyfriend. The correct responsorial phsalm is. " We don't know".

Maybe if you stopped looking and were less boyfriend orientated and just tried to enjoy other peoples company you'd do a lot better.

Misconception City.....some guys are after a long term relationship, usually the quiet ones who dont catch your attention... its a big catch22, the ones who jump out at you dont usually want a relationship, but the ones who do arent as attractive because they lack confidence, sometimes its just a case of talking to those who you normally overlook, a lot of guys and girls come out of themselves after first contact

Ah the friend zone-every girl Ive wanted to have a relationship seem to put me in here!
Bitterness aside Im in the same camp that the guys who want a serious relationship with a girl are the quieter ones. The not so quiet ones are the players who dont want a relationship but just want their nat king cole.
Take for example there is a girl I have known for years-since school. I kind of liked her in the background-too shy to step up to the plate. She had two very dodgy relationships with two players and remained friends with me all the time. Now despite me gaining enough courage to putting the best case forward for a going out sometime she seems to have tarred all men with the same brush-we all cheat, lazy blah blah blah. Now how fair is that guys?!?! Lesson is the players fcuk it up for the good guys. It seems girls like the players for a while-all rather exciting and seem to be all shocked when it all goes wrong and end up bored with or not even seeing the good guys and in the ever eternal though of "where are all the good guys"....

guys face the same problem
nice guys finish last
there is no one close to prefection.
life is a compromise.

There are guys out there that want a relationship.

Most have just been put off by girls saying things like this.

Ive recently gotten out of a 3 year relationship and although I have been looking to end it for about a year its made me think about all the things I want in life most of them I have or are on the horizon but the one thing I want most has eluded me a fun loving easy going girlfriend with possibility of that big day the kids the 4 poster bed etc..
Im not saying that the next woman I end up going out with I will propose in 2 months but I need to know that they are starting to lok for the same thing not just 2 months of fun before I get kicked to the kerb for some other bloke.
yea fair enough that might happen but thats the risk I take. If a girl says to me oh no marriage never no dont like kids.. well for me shes not relationship material.. I might take her home for the night (after all I am single and allowed) but that would be as far as it went.
the problem I have is that all the women I meet are young immature and frankly ive known them all for years and just dont think of any of them like that.
The only way any of us is going to find what we are looking for is to put ourselves out there take the risks and for gods sake dont get jaded. Ok your heart breaks but thats what much beer and your mates are for right?
Dont give up and roll over but dont push for it.. meet lots of new people
"every stranger is a friend you havent met yet"
my 2 pence

I agree with the 'nice guys finish last'. But only because shy guys don't go up and talk to girls whereas players usually are persistent and make it clear they like you. I like charasmatic guys purely because I am a very shy person, so if he gets the conversation going then I feel like it's going somewhere haha. I'd love to know a quiet guy but I never meet any because...

I think the same goes for girls, quieter/shy girls like myself would never approach a guy, so obviously even if two shy people like each other if neither of them take a chance then it never gets anywhere.

I knew you liked trouble makers!

ok, here it goes, i want a serious relationship, let see how many girls msg me, none. bcoz it is not they want a serious relationship, they just want the idea of a serious relationship. which infact no way close to each other. relationship start when u find the person under the skin he/she is but 98% of the msg are replied based on how good u look. so how can a normal person stand out.

Because sex is fun fun fun. Listening to you explain how your day was is not not not.
Hearing the words Oh f**k baby yess is great
Hearing the words Your so unsupportive is not
Spending your hard earned cash on Fine wine and food then going home and then giving the bed a work out is the best.
Spending your hard earned cash on more pillows and cushions for the bed is not.
Your afraid to commit to me she said
No I am more than happy to commit to you but not to the life style you always wanted without including me in the consultation of, or something in that style. Hmm that was very revealing of me eh?

mayb thats true and maybe not, i myself am looking a relationship, but all the nice guys are over the boody water lol, i think its jus about findin the right guy, some guys want a rel and some jus want 1niters, but its jus finding them thats the prob, but i know that pubs and night clubs defo aint the right place 2 find a guy, except for 1niters and thats not wat im after, and ya im sure there are girls out there that do the same, so each 2 there own
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I think you have hit the nail on the head there most women go out to nightclubs and pubs to meet men but the majority of men go to nightclubs and pubs because they all believe that any female who is in them is up for sex. Plus most men are under the illusion that they can always get something better but you will do in the mean time. I have to be honest I thought this when I was younger. I have to say though the most successful realtionship I have had to date was a girl I met in the dry cleaners.

irishlgirl74 wrote:

mayb thats true and maybe not, i myself am looking a relationship, but all the nice guys are over the boody water lol, i think its jus about findin the right guy, some guys want a rel and some jus want 1niters, but its jus finding them thats the prob, but i know that pubs and night clubs defo aint the right place 2 find a guy, except for 1niters and thats not wat im after, and ya im sure there are girls out there that do the same, so each 2 there own