Hi,

I am farily new to the site, so my plan of action was to go through and look for ladies that lived near to me and I liked the look of and/or sound of.

Unfortunately none of which got back to me.

Now I am a 22 year old guy and have been told I'm fairly attractive. Despite that, I would expect people to reply to me anyway, is that too wishful? Personally, I would message someone back out of courtesy anyway even if not interested.

I just want advice on whether or not I should expect messages back. Is it uncommon or common to be ignored? Am I doing something wrong? Any help would make my day....

Liam.

I'm guessing the lack of a picture is a start. It sounds shallow, but it doesn't give the best first impression.

You might want to flesh out your profile a little too. It helps.

(Yes, I know mine has bugger all in it at the moment, but I've just signed up again and can't be arsed to do it at the moment.)

Maybe it's what you put in the MSG they don't like .. i know it's hard to greet a person or if your greeting sounds like it's on copy and paste orrrrrrrrrrrrr if you say hey i love your pictures ha!

Introduce your self pick some things out what the person wrote in there profile and expand yours

Thanks for the feedback guys, much appreciated.

I did have pics on, but have now removed them as I decided they obviously weren't doing me any favours, so removed all 4, and am just putting one on now a brand new one of me in a tux which is pending approval.

HateOrLuvvMe, I guess at times my messages were a bit brief or rushed, but for 2 of the girls I particularly liked I did exactly what you said, picked things out in their profle I liked and commented on them, and I was quite laid-back not too full on, and just generally flirty in a non-threatening way. I jsut thought that would be the best way to be as that's how I am in real life when I'm interested in a girl, and it's the best way for me to do it I think.

I even went over the message limit on one girl so had to send her 2 in 1 but no reply grrrrrrrr hehe.

Ah well back to the drawing board I guess. I have had 33 people look at my profile and not one message me.

Perhaps you are right, I need to bulk it out some more. Suppose you only get out what you put in eh?

Sorry about my virginal approach, I guess you guys get questions like that on here all the time?

Liam.

It might be a little mercenary but you've got to look at it like a sales pitch (without the bullshit element obviously). Take a trawl through some random profiles and look at how spartan they are. People are always complaining about messages that just say 'Hi', and yet they give people nothing to go off. You've got to start a conversation somehow, but if you don't have any information about the person in question then you're no better off than just walking up to someone in the street (and unless you're some kind of Don Juan thats probably going to end up nowhere).

none messages me either. maybe these people are either not regular users or your not what they are looking for.

i guess if you walked down the street not everyone would say hi back. maybe its the same on here
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Yeh good point, and this is going to sound really bad, but I am quite ashamed to be on a site like this due to the stigma attached. I'm not someone who struggles too much to meet girls (although obviously a bit or I wouldn't be on here) but I want to meet someone special.

I will meet someone special to me by eading their profile and trying to see compatability and whether I fancy them as well as their picture, which is completely hypocritical as at the moment I don't have a pic and my profile is sparse ha.

Would any girls like to get to know me on msn messenger instead, this seems too hard!

Oh Liammmm hehe you truly are worried aren't you. To be honest if she/he/them expect the MSGenger to put all the work in and them just to reply yes or no answers or even worse view and delete are they truly worth it? My advise would to get your self noticed by replying to forum posts .. like now. I think it's a really nice quality reading people's advise/views lets you into there angle of sight

I wish you luck Liam Lilly X

There could be 100 reasons why these people haven't replied.

-No picture (Probably the biggest reason)
- Short profile
- You may not appeal profile wise (Hobbies, Lifestyle, Age, What You're looking for etc.)
- Too busy.
-The message you sent or the way you came across in it.

Could be anything

Don't trouble yourself. You can't expect everyone to like you or be interested. Eventually you'll strike it up with someone. Just be patient, shrug it off.

I would say my profile is better than alot on here and I'm no oil-painting but I'd say I'm decent looking yet I get far more ignored mails than replied ones, and I don't answer all of mine either.

It's no big deal mate.
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I thought no-one was going to reply to my messages until a couple of days after I sent them out.

The best thing to do is to make some posts in the disussion boards and meet some new friends. Be patient and do not expect a date instantaniously, it will come in time my friend .

Good luck to you, may you find your match.
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My response rate is going up the longer I am here. I couldn't tell you why, though. Still, though, I'd go with what others have said. Sharpen the profile as you go along and make an effort with messaging someone. I don't tend to bother unless I'm going to give a decent amount of time to compose it, or something comes to mind that I can write well and fire off quickly. I'm a sucker for having an "if i'm not going to do it properly, I'm not going to bother" I won't send out a message I'm not happy with. Likewise I'm not going to cry over a lack of response.

Liam, I doubt you are doing anything wrong- some people respond and some people don't. It is not an uncommon thing to get no responses back. I do try to answer all of the messages I get, but I have ignored some of them recently because I know I am not interested. Just keep trying

Check the date those people last logged in. I know that a while ago I sent out a few, and most of them are still sat in my outbox, unread, because I didn't look first and they haven't logged in since 2005.