Is it possible, like in the animal kingdom, that we perspire desperation and it's that scent that keeps others away? How do we change from "desperate for a relationship" to "open to new changes"?

I don't know, but when you find out please let me know...!

An important question that I have struggling with far over 10 years of singledom. Might it be the high level position? At the end of the day all I ask for is a partner, friend, lover and just a person who can just accept me as a person and not compare or evaluate who is better that the other.

How about just keeping it simple.

Perhaps there is no such thing as the "perfect person" and in reality what we must do is to learn to adapt to the "karma" around us ... and if applicable ... send out the signals that we want recipicated. Is this too heavy?

Can Muslims believe in Qadar instead of karma...?

I'm all for 'Wahdat al-wujud' and 'al-Insan al-kamil' myself!

Still, each to their own tariqa...!

As recently seperated and loving being single, let me put my two pennies worth into this! Alot of it will seem cliche! STOP LOOKING but dont stop putting yourself out there! When you fell off your bike as a kid you picked it up and got back on the same thing applies! I tell you for me its all about the honesty, I want some one who is honest and when I say this, you cant be honest with the person in front of you unless honest with yourself! For me a big turn off is drinking and pot but I dont know about others! Pushy men for me reeks of desperation. I guess what I have written means men have to be clairvoyant nowadays but when did they not I just think things are simpler nowadays its you guys who complicate things. So stop playing mind games I will give you a few simple rules

1) meet a girl fall into bed on first date and like her does not mean when she gives you her number you cant call her because she is a ho she has given you her number for a reason

2) looks are not everything, if you like a girl and your mates are teasing you, they are not going to go out with her you are

3) if girl gives you her number phone it dont wait 3 days it does not make you seem desperate you will proberly get brownie points

remember the men who first went to the moon and here is a fact if you did not know but they were sent up there they did not know if they would be able to make it back to earth because the computer that was used was less powerful than your home computer and yet they still took the chance to realise a dream!

I think it's simply because you don't really believe that you will be successful.
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