Your a better man than me scotsdave. i gave up being a gentleman years ago, too many puddles not enough jackets.

Hi ladies and gentlemen
First of all i am from the Netherlands ...so excuse me if my english is not so good
I was reading this topic and wanted to respond to it.
I have seen manny forums now and my conclusion is that mostly men and sometimes women are on them for cheap quick sexdates without other reason ( only the ones that do it wil be maybe touched by this lines )
My oppinion abouth dating is seeing if both of us matching after some chat conversations.
In chat conversations most people can/wil speak freely,but the day of a date is a wole other story.
There wil be manny questions answered after such day, like is he/she like on the pic? how is his/ her behavior in sertain situations and can i handle that ? etc etc.
Shure its not only sex that wil be the most importend case in a just starting or longterm relationship , but its good to know if that matches also,because a relationship can be as good as a dream but when sexlife in it doesnt match its doomed to fail also.
If u want to be honest with eachother its not wrong to discus his/her fantasies also in my oppinion without beeing a sexmaniac in first place.
Maybe the other person has fantasies or wants to do stuff that u absolutly dont want to think of or dont want to do.
Sex,love and caring for eachother has to be in a perfect balance between 2 people , other wise the relationship wil fail believe me.
When i am surching for a women i surch for somebody who i can care for so does she for me.
It doesnt have to be needed to ask for a romantic night ( all included) it just has to take place because both feel that way and love it.
In such night u dont think only abouth yourself buth give him/her the night of her life over and over again as long as we both life.
A good relationship (in my case it would be with a female ) is build on caring for eachother,have fun with eachother,get serious when the time is asked for it,taste eachother,enjoy eachother , laughing with eaachother and crying with eachother.
If i find that i am sold !
To bad alot of ladies had negative experiences to often ,but dont give up there aree also good men surfing around.
I wish everybody goodluck with his surch and may the day of happiness come soon.
John




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Hi John and welcome. You raised some lovely thoughts there and I can only agree with each one.

I've messaged girls occasionally on sites with no replies, although at times I've been messaged by girls who are like 17 (way too young for me) or are far away. I've even tried approaching girls in bars/clubs resulting in only like a 5 or 10 minute convo before they disappear into the night and some have even pushed me away which leaves you wondering whether there's something wrong with you or if it's just them. Handling rejection has often been something I've difficulty with.

Thanks.

your welcome
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