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24.01.2009, 10:57 quote

jeggae
jeggae Joined: 06 Dec 2008 Posts: 2174 Location: United Kingdom, England, Bedfordshire
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missmossy wrote:
jeggae wrote:
I think most women are attracted to cheeky men that are a bit rough.

Seems to me a lot of women are attracted to men that put it about a bit and have a bit of reputation, whereas most men don't in women.

Even seen the affect that bad, cheeky men have on dating sites. Nice does seem to be thought of as boring with most women.

Funnily enough a lot of men that get a lot of attention do put over a persona of being 'bad'. Seen that in real life and on forums.

Not a nice thing to say, but I wonder if its the reason that some women seem to be attracted to men that beat women?


Why would any woman do this ? yes a cheeky chappy who isn't a doormate, yes fine, but someone who 'put's it about a bit' NO

Not sure any woman would be attracted to a man that beats a woman, why would you, they very rarely change there ways in my experience.


Not sure why, but I've seen a fair few women on dating site forums say they always seem to attract wife beaters. Probably more like something attracts the women to them. Is puzzling.
The men I know that beat wives, and generally treat them bad in other ways, tend to be the typical bad boy.

 
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24.01.2009, 11:28 quote

choochi0

Men or women who find themselves in an abusive relationship, be it physical, mental, financial, emotional etc are generally there because they have either grown-up learning that is what it should be like, they have been manipulated into excepting the situation or - when it comes to more easily hidden ways such as emotional or mental abuse - they may not even realise that it is happening.

Sadly, I think one of the main reasons that men or women find themselves in a wholly unequal and damaging relationship is fear of being alone.

 
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24.01.2009, 19:16 quote

alanpartridge83

leezeelee wrote:
The biggest problem i have always had when dating is when she comes out with the old cliche.

You are soooo nice, im glad im your friend.

You will make someone a good bloke.

Etc etc

and then when you make a move, its like you are the worst person in the world.

any advice please...(is it good to be a bad boy and not listen to them, care, and generally be very empathetic)


sos to break this to you mate but most girls do seem to like the bad guys especially within ur age group.as u get older it may get better for you

 
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25.01.2009, 15:06 quote

cutielouise

alanpartridge83 wrote:
leezeelee wrote:
The biggest problem i have always had when dating is when she comes out with the old cliche.

You are soooo nice, im glad im your friend.

You will make someone a good bloke.

Etc etc

and then when you make a move, its like you are the worst person in the world.

any advice please...(is it good to be a bad boy and not listen to them, care, and generally be very empathetic)


sos to break this to you mate but most girls do seem to like the bad guys especially within ur age group.as u get older it may get better for you


not all girls like bad boys they might attract them!! i dont prefer a bad boy 2 a nice guy i go 4 personality!! and see what happens! Rolling Eyes Wink

 
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17.02.2009, 23:09 quote

eclypse
eclypse Joined: 02 Feb 2009 Posts: 17 Location: United Kingdom, England, Isle of Wight
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jeggae wrote:
missmossy wrote:
jeggae wrote:
I think most women are attracted to cheeky men that are a bit rough.

Seems to me a lot of women are attracted to men that put it about a bit and have a bit of reputation, whereas most men don't in women.

Even seen the affect that bad, cheeky men have on dating sites. Nice does seem to be thought of as boring with most women.

Funnily enough a lot of men that get a lot of attention do put over a persona of being 'bad'. Seen that in real life and on forums.

Not a nice thing to say, but I wonder if its the reason that some women seem to be attracted to men that beat women?


Why would any woman do this ? yes a cheeky chappy who isn't a doormate, yes fine, but someone who 'put's it about a bit' NO

Not sure any woman would be attracted to a man that beats a woman, why would you, they very rarely change there ways in my experience.


Not sure why, but I've seen a fair few women on dating site forums say they always seem to attract wife beaters. Probably more like something attracts the women to them. Is puzzling.
The men I know that beat wives, and generally treat them bad in other ways, tend to be the typical bad boy.


I belive the general term for this is "masochists"

I do have a bit of a issue with this whole "bad-boy" thing, basically the girls around my area seem to be in a case of the what the hells, "Hes cheated on me and ive known about it for ages, he keeps saying he doesnt want to be with me, but i love him" this sort of thing is just strange, your complaining about the guys you love that is cheating on you with multiple women behind you back, treats you like crap and you still wanna be with this guy!?

this is the case for 4-5 women i know in my general area, all nice girls i had a attraction to at some point, but seriously do yourself a favor!

I am on the most part a nice guy, granted i can have a bladed tounge because i do have a tendancy to just say things straight, if you come to me with a complaint i tell you how to correct the problem not stroke your bruised ego, on either side of the gender, but now ive been out of the dating game for a while and most people seem to see me as the nice guy you want as a friend only... gets irritating Smile


But maybe that is the problem, women want the nice guys to be their friends alot of the time and not see them so much as dating material, can't say for sure though.

 
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