I would like to find out from the people on this site what they believe makes a decent guy. his is open to both sexes, thanks.

Frank Muir.

It's a bit of a spurious question really.

What does any level-headed person want?

Honesty, kindness, willing to help, understanding

Aren't these some of the obvious things that make any person decent?

It might be more easily explained by saying Frank Muir.

Money.

Thanks to everyone who has replied:)

From what I can see is that there are many women who seem to struggle with finding their Mr right, always seem to be complaining about how their man doesn't treat them in the way they feel they should be.

I have noticed that many women tend to go with a guy that has a sort of bad boy image certainly where attitudes are concerned.

Anyway I was just interested in the views of people as to what they seem to believe makes a guy good one. I know this from my own perspective but was curious from other people.

Glad nobody noticed my spelling mistake, or at least didn't point it out

Women very, very, very rarely find Mr Right because their expectations are too high and they're unwilling to accept that nobody, yes nobody, will match all the criteria they're looking for.

There are a lot of women out there (not all, thank fuck) who won't give a man a second glance because he doesn't tick all of the seemingly infinite boxes they've assigned to the man of their dreams.

Theres one woman I know who can't hold down a relationship for longer than a couple of months because of this. She even freely admits its because of her high standards. Every time she gets involved with someone she ends up getting hurt, and this happens regularly. More importantly she hurts the men who are taken in by her charms. These are decent guys whos only crime has been not making the grade. In this case 'making the grade' means not fulfilling something trivial. For both parties this isn't going to be pretty in the long run. The men (good blokes, not your average wankers) have their confidence destroyed and she spends a lot of time on her own needlessly. I can see a lot of cats in her future.

I think men are a little more realistic with their expectations. We're simple creatures. Its like buying a car; you know what you're after, but you know that theres always a catch. If you buy a sports car you know you'll pay through the nose to insure it. If you want something more practical you know your mates will probably piss themselves laughing when they see you in it for the first time. It really is that simple.

Using that same analogy, women want a Ferrari that does 80 miles to the gallon, is group 4 insurance and lets you fit your weekly shopping in the boot. Guess what? Its not going to happen.

Of course the other problem you have is that women aren't satisfied once they've got their dream man. Oh no. Once they've snagged him they have to change him.

Riddle me this Batman; if a woman wants a man who is confident, 'manly' (for want of a better word) and able to stand up for himself then why the fuck do they devote so much time to crushing his spirit and moulding him into some simpering wetback? The man you have now is the man you wanted, remember?

Anyway, there probably is a template for a decent guy, but he doesn't exist, and even if he did he still wouldn't be right 6 months down the line.

I've come to the conclusion that the men aren't at fault here. Women have wholly unrealistic expectations, and when it comes to matters of the heart they have trouble separating fantasy from reality. Men are not flawless and neither are you. We all have aspects of ourselves that aren't pallatable, just don't get hung up on them. Deal with them. The whole is more than the sum of the parts.

I love this dating site, it is in fact better than the ones that I usually advertise with my crappy spam posts.

*IF YOU DO NOT STOP THESE SPAM POSTINGS..YOU WILL BE REPORTED*

*EDITED BY LV & CAZZ*

And just what has plugging someone else's website got to do with the OP's question?
tut tut not the first time you've randomly popped in a plug is it, angelarose?

I think we should all copy and paste her message and send it to her as a PM. That'll teach her when her mailbox is full of crap.

Sorry Snoopy, well off topic here....but Why is this angelarose20 still a chuffing member anyway? I just did a search and the only 4 posts s/he's ever made are plugs for another dating website, each one been edited and warned off.
So how come she's not been banned yet?

Because they WANT us to spam post her.

To go back on topic, well what makes a decent guy? Obviously angelarose20 isnt one, cuz decent guys dont spam dating websites with links to other dating websites....

Honesty ......... it's that simple ........