I think it's better... especially for someone shy and mad like me. You get to meet a wider range of people, whom you know are looking for the same (or similar things) and have more chance to build up an attraction, rather than having to make a snap, gut decision such as if you met someone at a club. The only problem is the ease of lying about yourself and of course, those lovable love pests. :-/

34% think net dating is worse and 34% have not met anybody off the net yet.... probably all men getting no replies to messages

Regular forum posting works!
I've been away on holiday for the past few weeks (not using the forums) and noticed the number of people looking at my profile has dropped to 1 a week. It used to be 1 a day when I was posting regularly on the forums.
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I think that the net allows people to indulge in what i consider to be unacceptable behaviour! This in turn has led to a level of suspicion on all parts and has spoilt it for genuine people!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

It's not just this site, tho, is it? Anywhere on the net, you can't be sure of the love of the person, can you? You can't be sure of anything...

For example, that Miss Pebbles the dog - I just think it's not really a Miss! Cos if it was, she'd be Miss Pebbles the bitch, wouldn't she?

The thing is, what could be done to stop those fake profiles? How could the site ensure that all the people opening profiles were who they say they are?
Or rather, how could it be done without any intervention or checking by people on the site?
(Since they don't want to spend time vetting people.)
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Give me golf clubs, fresh air and a beautiful partner, and you can keep the clubs and the fresh air.
(Jack Benny)

Well Tryst i might stand more of chance with an Asian Bride PMSL

Perhaps we could persuade Toby to act on info from regulars when we come across a troublesome member! This Jon the Mod sounds like a no nonsense guy!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

I know the chatroom isnt everyone cup of tea but at least you get to see the real person you are chatting to, if you've not seen a person on cam first & you are worried who they really are then I would say dont bother, if they are not prepared to show themselves then they are more than likely hiding something or are a fake....

I still think it's better but thats just me

Good Grief! mention web cams to most normal peopleand they associate it with the smuttier side of proceedings LOL

I lived in a flat and out of 12 addresses 4 were occupied by junkies and 3 by habitual criminals! I used minefor security as well Tryst!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Before I had a cam, the men were always badgering me to get one and telling me that they don't cost much. Only a few would let me see what they looked like by using the cam one way to me.... well, when I DID get a cam, most of the men no longer seemed to have cams or made up lots of excuses!!

Btw I'm just meaning using a cam to enable the other person to see that you at least still look like your profile pictures. However, many men DO OFTEN have a different agenda, same as some women do too.

I see many men who have the same pic in their profile for over 3 years... don't tell me that they still look the same!! I do think it's too easy for on line daters to be somebody different than they truly are, but then there are so many people who despite wanting to meet an 'honest woman/man' can't be honest themselves.

Hi all,

As some of you may know i'm new here. I ventured into the chat room yesterday and had a laugh with a few people in there. BUT was invited to private chat and then had a 'perv' trying to show me his **** on webcam. Luckily it wouldnt load. I blocked him becuase I havent come on here to see that sort of thing. If I did there are plenty of free sites I could visit.
I have recieved quite a few emails and go with my gut feeling. They ask for my msn but through a bad experience once resulting in threatening messages and him turning into a stalker, i always decline. I feel emailing or chat on here is a good way to get to know someone. If theres a conection then you go from there.
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