Having been away a few days I was rather shocked to read Siany's public message to me personally, I am hoping Cazzabee will allow me just this once to veer off topic slightly and reply quickly before moving on.
My response is just as much for everyone else as Siany.
I have never intended to 'preach' anything to anyone and I would hope if you have ever read any of my other posts elsewhere you will notice that I have never tried to stop anyone else having an opinion, I always 'own' my own opinions and respect others theirs.
If anybody thinks differently then I would wholeheartedly apologise if I were out of order in any way.
Yes I have indeed made my feelings clear thus far about supporting this lad for his choices and for that reason I've decided there really is no more for me to say on this matter, and will stay out of this forum from now on.
It was my understanding that if each and every one of us only ever made one post per topic to put our personal thoughts forward, each topic would die a rather swift death.
I thought the idea was to 'debate' stuff with other forum users, but apparently not?
However as my personal opinions have upset or annoyed another member I would rather back off here and now.

Rocketgirl...I didnt close this thread or delete the post cos i knew you would want to say something in response. I will be keeping an eye on this and I wont allow it to carry on any further so now that you have both had your say it would be best left and back to original topic please

Thanks Cazzabee, I appreciate that.

Just read this thread and scanned through it, and for once I do slightly agree with Stoney.

As I've said on here before, I havent had a relationship for about 25 years through choice, although I've been sexually active since 14. Thats not through lack of interest from women, because I did and still do attract loads of women.

I got a bit of stick 20 - 25 years ago from people when my mates and peers were getting married and living with women wondering if I was gay, even though I was sexually active with mainly short sexual relationships and one night stands. But I was happy with my lifestyle at the time, even though I probably turned down sex with loads of women. Mainly because of not wanting to get involved, and hurt women.

Now I'm 50 I do regret not having more sex and think about the women I could have shagged but didn’t lol. If I could turn the clock back I defiantly would do things differently.

It’s a totally different world nowadays and sex is everywhere, and everyone is more open about it. So there is probably more pressure now then when I was young. People don’t really have long term relationships anymore, although there are probably exceptions. If a couple stay together more then 2 – 3 years then they are doing well. So I was probably born 30 years to early.

I’m not going to really pass comment or judge you, or say if you are right or wrong sheffieldguy79. But you are probably under more pressure now because sex is more open then it was, and a 28 year old virgin probably wasn’t that uncommon 30 years ago, although not the norm. I think you will probably find it hard to find a women that doesn’t want to be penetrated to be honest. As Rocketgirl says you’re probably looking at religious women, which could possibly cause you more problems.

Just relating my experiences and regrets, but good luck with your search. I do advise all young men to have as much sex as they can, with as many different women as possible though.
You never know there might be a women on Flitbox that doesn’t want to be penetrated.