So tempting to be sarcastic, but I promised myself I would be nice to misandrists.

I agree annmarie.
My 74 yrs old auntie married a 96 yrs old man - they were very much in love and there was definitely 'sexual chemistry' between them when you saw the twinkle in his eye as he playfully smacked her bum! But I can garuantee you they never 'did the deed'.
Also I have known a couple who one of them was totally paralysed from the waist down *since before* they met.
I really dont think sex is the be all and end all in life.

Thanks ManFromMayo. No worries, I did wonder if poor Samatron either accidentally posted in the wrong thread or was just having a bad day.
I've been called a man-hater (and worse) before now, for choosing not to drop me drawers - I was just silly for taking the bait here, is all.

Back on thread - I wonder how that lad got on?

I newver heard the term misandrist before. you learn something new every day ...

Anyway, to get back to the point, i respect the fact that this fella has principles of celebacy and is sticking to them, the same way i respect teetotalers and vegetarians, but in my personal opinion, the one thing all of these types of people have in common is that they are missing out on some good things in life. If i couldnt have a nice steak, with a glass of red or a good ale, and sex with a girl i fancy every now and again, i'd go crackers.

I dont beleive you have another chance at life, so you need to make the most out of this one.

If someone *chooses* celibacy they aren't actually missing anything are they? Cuz if they thought they were 'missing a good thing' they probably wouldn't choose to miss out on it.
(I personally acknowledge what I'm 'choosing' to miss out on is a good/enjoyable thing, but in my personal opinion it's only good in certain circumstances, so when I don't get it I don't miss it, see?).

I think the question of whether it is a curse or a blessing is looking at it far too simplistically. If you don't mind, would you be able to outline briefly why you hold the principle so tightly?

Sex is a VERY complicated part of a our collective psyche. Personally, I believe that abstaining from sex before marriage is actually placing unbelievable value on it, and undue pressure on a relationship in the future. As others have said, sex is definitely not the be all and end all of relationships, but isolating it as one component that you choose not to include in your relationships highlights it as something that you place great importance on. Ironically, though you've placed such premium importance on it, you actually don't understand it.

I think that abstinence can often have the inverse effect on a relationship, as your experiences would suggest. Also, if you're entering into relationships with people that are already sexually active, you have to expect some degree of disharmony.

At 28, I would suggest virgin partners are few and far between, unless you're in the religious community. Perhaps you should really only focus on dating those people that share your principles to begin with.

A virgin does not understand sex.

RocketGirl, I think I am one of the few on this forum who believe you have an attitude problem. I love how you voice your opinions but you are beginning to sound like a preacher. We get that you think he shouldn't have sex for the sake of it and should maintain his principles but all this quote grabbing and the use of the asterixes are uneccessary and come across as vicious.
It seems that you do not want anybody else to have an opinion other than your own. Let other people speak so that we can all input some ideas

Siany

As a moderator on this forum, I would suggest that you re-read the rules of the forum posted here: http://www.flirtbox.net/dating/dating-forum-guidelines.html

What you have just typed could be classed as a personal attack and it isnt something that we like to see here or tolerate.

Please restrict your replys to the topic in hand rather than casting aspertions on someones character.

What do you think of the virgin guy thing...you havent actually voiced what you think off that??