hi, am new here - so hello to all
interesting thread and I'd call it - infatuation!

It happens.. long conversations you dont want to end, letters or messages you are waiting for, phone calls etc

I wouldn't worry that much. Following others above - put it to test and meet in person if you like her

Would be interesting if you ended up like a love sick puppy and girl decided you are not up to her dreams

i really think you both should meet up and see if the "spark" is there, so different when meet people than talking over the net. nothing ventured nothing gained... good luck and i hope it works out x

We are arranging a meeting.

Good Luck to both of you.
Hope it goes as well as you'd wish!
(Or better! )
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in a language (i can't quite remember which one, is it Persian?) They have over 40 words for 'love' each one means something a bit different.

Not that this helps the matter at all, but if only English were that wonderfully exact.
Alas, there would be no comedy.

well in reply to the first post i would say it seems very soon for this person to be IN LOVE with you. i have told people i love certain things about them after a short while say 4/5 weeks but thats loving things about them (there trates)! but not i love you as in im in love with you. i was with my ex for 3 years and only realised i was in love with her after we had broken up! but it does happen and i know of 2 couple that have been in love from the day they met and still are 25 years on...

One thing I don't think I made clear is that I asked if I should be happy or worried because I was a bit worried in case she wanted too much too soon and she got hurt. That's all. I didn't mean i was worried for her sanity or anything, I wouldn't have been chatting to her for 4 weeks if I felt that way...it was more about not wanting to hurt her.

Well ....I said I would come back & let you know, Saif loves me even more now we have met & I feel the same........so in answer to Scotties original post, yes you can say you love someone even before you meet....worked for us

in my experience it makes things very awkward, specially if you have sent any intimate mails etc. lets face it know matter how well you get to know someone online its not like your gonna go round there house let yourself in and make a cuppa like you would with a good friend. {not that i make a point of letting myself in friends houses, its just the first example that popped in my head} the person you are on the net isnt the person you are in person. some people are more confident speaking through type rather than speech and others are less, the difficult part of internet dating is finding the right balance for the individual person. in my experience i find it very easy to talk online but not face to face {dont get me wrong i dont clam up i just like to think befor i speak} but i find it much easier to make someone feel comfortable and at ease around me in person than i do over the net. i guess what im saying is if youve been a rather tactile and confident person in your messages to said girlie then be that person from the second you meet and im sure you'll become very close friends at minimum. try not to feel a little retarded by giving her a big hug and slobber over her cheek it kinda breaks the ice and makes her feel that you are exactly what it says on the tin. if you havent been that kind of person in your messages then you got yourself a bunny boiler

Personally I am an 'I Love You' slut.

I don't mean that in the way that it sounds. I mean that if I have been talking to you for a couple of weeks I'll probably say something like 'lovies you!' at the end of a conversation. It doesn't mean that I am in love with that person, for me it probably means just the opposite.

If I feel comfortable enough to send you lovies, then it is probably a good bet that you are a good friend. I have a REALLY hard time saying the real thing to people. I can hardly say it to my sisters or my parents. My ex practically had to force me to say the words to him and got mad because I didn't say them to him enough, but I could say lovies to just about any friend I had, even if I hadn't known them very long.

I don't know if that is what you were talking about or not, but I just wanted to point out the way that some girls might mean it.

In my original post I was referring to people being serious and saying they love you very quickly into a friendship/relationship and meaning they had actually fallen in love as opposed to joking and playing around.

Saif said ir before we met, after & everyday since, I do too, cos we love each other to bits