What do you do when you been chatting to someone for 4 weeks or so, really getting to know each well and enjoying yourselves and then they go and say they love you?

How can anybody love someone before they even met them in person?


Has anybody experienced this and if so what happened?

I think some people use the word love, when I would say 'very fond' or 'care deeply'

Oh this is such a difficult one because people all seem to have a different view as to what love is, and then may be some of us feel that there are many types of love too, so what expression of love are we talking about? Who knows? Humanity, brotherly/sisterly, romantically, lustfully or 'I want to spend my whole life with you kind' which I'm guessing is the one you're referring to?

I'm not sure that I could feel that special 'I want to spend my whole life with you' kind of love by having never met the person, or even after only 4 weeks BUT I do think that I can be fond or care about people on the web that I get to know. How long that takes is more about how much time you've spent chatting, and has there been a video chat where it actually feels like you've met and also the quality of conversation s you've had.

Then there's those people that you feel an instant 'connection with' and have no idea why, but for me this is the powerful one... and may be what the person expressing love has felt from the word go. If it's both ways great, if only one way... not so sure... better meet fast for a 'reality check!'

Oh,Dear Sc0ttie !
If I enjoy chatting with you, joking,teassing.....if I say that I like you,or you say that I'm a good looking guy...,if we speak on the phone, and we say at the end of the conversation:"kisses"..it doesn't mean that we are really going to Do It
or, Does It ?

and, now,I know what you mean.
Is pure solitude diagnosis,when people find a person that make them hope,and the hope is not the one suposed to be,but the hope for the other one...
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i wouldnt say i loved any one after 4 weeks would probably have strong feelings for them after getting to know them! i suppose everyones diffrent and she feels like that about u! but i think it is possible to love someone before you meet be happy mr orange segment lover lol

I personally think it's possible but then there are different degrees of love & feelings for someone....

Saif said he loved me first & he does'nt hide that fact, so it's a hard one to answer, I do love him to bits,I have not said I love you to anyone for several years...so when I told Saif I really meant it, if that makes me silly I dont care..I know how I feel at this moment in time

Dont be a armpit.

You dont fall in love with the persons appearance, you fall in love with the person. Now, you obviously miss a few things by not seeing them. But you get the fundamentals of everything just by talking to them. So, if she has fallen in love with you already, its because of who you are.. not what you are. Can you see what im saying here?

I feel like slapping you however. You say you really like the girl, then turn around and ask whether or not you should be happy or worried? If you like her, be happy. it's self explainatory, and there's no need to start jumping out of the way because she's not shooting bullets at you yet, just expressing how she feels.. girls are more open. Take it as a compliment, not a lockdown.

Personally i dont think you can Love someone without meeting them first ............ you might think you love them, due to the intense communication that is exchanged during the first few weeks before you meet ........... but you never know the actual real person until you see them face to face, see them in there own surrondings etc ........... MSN, Webcam or the telephone can never show you 100% what the person is really like.

Of course yes it is possible to establish strong feelings for the person ......... but that is not LOVE

Seeing as the 'what is love' thread has not resolved the definition of love, surely you cannot say when the term actually applies. Frankly, I think 'love' means something different to each individual, which may range from genuine respect to merely 'loving' their bank balance

Given that it is quite possible to know someone in the real world and believe that they love you, when really they don't, then isn't the opposite possible too? ie getting to know someone over the net and feeling genuine love for them.

gj brings up an important point: do you love someone for what they are, or who they are?
I think everyone has 'loved' another person's idiosyncrasies, eg their laugh or the way they do everyday things. The question is, do you love those idiosyncrasies in their own right, or do you love them because they belong to that person? Again, distinguishing between the what and the who

There's also the murky grey areas between fancying someone lusting after someone and loving someone...