What do you do when you been chatting to someone for 4 weeks or so, really getting to know each well and enjoying yourselves and then they go and say they love you?

How can anybody love someone before they even met them in person?


Has anybody experienced this and if so what happened?

We are arranging a meeting.

One thing I don't think I made clear is that I asked if I should be happy or worried because I was a bit worried in case she wanted too much too soon and she got hurt. That's all. I didn't mean i was worried for her sanity or anything, I wouldn't have been chatting to her for 4 weeks if I felt that way...it was more about not wanting to hurt her.

In my original post I was referring to people being serious and saying they love you very quickly into a friendship/relationship and meaning they had actually fallen in love as opposed to joking and playing around.

The problems or pitfalls of long distance relationships is although abscence makes the heart grow fonder, it can also increase the sense of loneliness when you are not able to be together. This can SOMETIMES give a heightened sense of need and desire to be with that person, when if you lived just up the road to them you might not pine so much.

If somebody tells me that they love me before we have met and all we have had is msn chats, a few phone calls and maybe a webcam chat, I don't think I would be able to take it seriously. I would probably feel more like that person was looking for somebody to love and was kind of playing pin the tail on the donkey....ok you'll do. Rightly or wrongly, that was just how I felt and that is why I did not get to meet her, because it just wasn't feeling right to me and probably not her either, deep down. Plus she was being avoidant at meeting anyway.