[quote="LittleVixen"]

ajb123644 wrote:

Not always, I sent a message earlier just to compliment someone on their profile, didnt get diddly squat back

[quote="fireinmyheart"]

LittleVixen wrote:

ajb123644 wrote: Not always, I sent a message earlier just to compliment someone on their profile, didnt get diddly squat back Sure, not ALWAYS (all three girls Ive dated from online, have contacted me first), but I think its the exception rather than the rule. I've probably had replies from maybe 2 or 3 girls I've contacted, out of God knows how many!

The 3 dates I've had have been with women that contacted me first. But then I never contact women first

I take a lot of interest in profiles and find the ones who put threesomes etc down on their list of what they're looking for a bit off-putting ... some come on with the love talk straight away before theyve even bothered to find out your name - if i wanted a quick s*** with someone id go to the local pub - if others took the time to read what it is you're looking for they might have more success - i answer to the majority of people and have met a couple of great blokes - ive no idea if it will develop into anything but if you dont try you'll never know - ive had my share of 'colourful characters' whilst on here but had some really good experiences too - don't lose heart, anything good is worth waiting for

Agreed, when some guy is looking 4 things I'm not its easiser to ignore the profile than sending a sorry not looking 4 same thing message back and sometimes then getting abuse, isn't it? Somebody called me ignorant today because I had not responded to their message, but after reading the 5th show us ya tits and do ya suck messages I had received I deleted all the ones from the day b4 i had not read to only read the ones sent to me there and then. Some of us really do want to get 2 know somebody online b4 we meet them. its a bit frightening when somebody from other part of country is willing to jump in their car drive down to meet u for a coffee just could you spoke to them for a minute on msn, that shows pure desparation for a date and is off putting.

lasvegasvic wrote:

I take a lot of interest in profiles and find the ones who put threesomes etc down on their list of what they're looking for a bit off-putting ... some come on with the love talk straight away before theyve even bothered to find out your name - if i wanted a quick s*** with someone id go to the local pub - if others took the time to read what it is you're looking for they might have more success - i answer to the majority of people and have met a couple of great blokes - ive no idea if it will develop into anything but if you dont try you'll never know - ive had my share of 'colourful characters' whilst on here but had some really good experiences too - don't lose heart, anything good is worth waiting for

I knew online dating was going to be difficult but...oh dear.

I've been reading a lot of the post's here, trying to get an idea of how best to make friends etc. My friends (not that they have any experience in this matter) said i should just message a bunch of women with similar interests. I don't want to put people off or seem like a weirdo. This is very complicated

I've come across a couple of successes from a different site, as well as the ones on here. So it can work and I hope they are very happy. Well I hope everyone is happy, but realise that often people get left out in these situations. Same as most threads - everyone is different, wants something different, gets something different. Enough waffle...

to get bac on topic....
i have tried online dating on and off for the past 6 years or so, and have mat some very interesting people. i've met about 3 or 4 gf's purley off the internet, and ok so they didn't eventually work out but the point is they can. you just have to have patience. i mean it took me over 6 months of chatting to one gf of mine before she'd let me meet her for the first time, and u've gotta admit that the press doesn't help in any way, wot with always putting internet dating down as dangerous. it's only dangerous if ur not careful or just stupid, therefore i think girls have a right to be cautious and ask u to take ur time. ok so u'm back on here and it may take a while, but i'm not gunna let it put me off, you shouldn't too.

I like internet dating because I live a quiet lifestyle and don't have a job or club where I would meet many people in everyday life.
The internet enables me to hook up with people with whom I can go out and socialise/date. I can also plan to meet people from the web in other areas such as London, when I know I'm going there for a visit.
I have met loads of people from web sites, not just Fbx and have regular conversations with many more, some for a few years now and I would consider them friends.
So far, I have found what I've been looking for and even when I've changed my 'goal post' the web has delivered that too.
People often don't answer messages and like LV I do initiate contact as well as responding to those I've received.
I don't like 'empty' profiles that just say "ask me" 'cos even though I expect to do that at some point, it helps to know a bit more about somebody before you have a live conversation.
I think it helps to identify what it is that you're wanting early on too saves wasting time if you're a mis-match.
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you make a few good points, more about all the mupets that you have to contend with. theres a lot of single minded guys that think being aggresive / sleazy is the only way to go.

i dont think online dating is by anyway a quick fix, im just visist once in a while to use the discussion more than anything

Ah but don't forget your pic should be recent enough to be recognisable as you are when you plan to meet AND can I remind you that it's not useful to put somebody elses picture up instead of yourself, as I've mentioned elsewhere, I met somebody who put a relative's photo on site so they HAD to recognise me from mine when we met!