its mad that we all go thru the same motions and paranoia (to a extent) of looking for someone..

if you dont get replies, at first you think, maybe their busy as it could be a friday night or really good weather outside
then you get annoyed that no one has replied
then you wonder whats wrong with you, and examine your profile and change your pics, maybe steal ideas from other peoples profiles..
then you come on here and make a post about why no one replies, and everyone is really nice about it all giving you compliments and telling you not to worry, the right person will come along

so the moral is, sod the profiles, come on here and chat to everybody and you will have more chance of getting a date

More chance of getting a date..I should be so lucky....my inbox is so empty I bet there's more messages in Gary Glitters fan club inbox than there is in mine on here.

ME too!!!!!! you reckon we are over the hill!!!!!!

This thread has made my day....going to have to remember to show it to my flat mate. Then again, it might put him off. He's complaining about being single and never meeting anyone so I'm trying to persuade him to join the site.

No, I disagree.

When I was still messaging, I did tend to get replies to most of my approaches - and while some women have been kind enough to say they like me, I also know I'm no Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. So it's definitely not all about looks.

I was surprised to hear that people send out tons of messages. I certainly never messaged many women at one time. Maybe a couple at a time at most. I only ever messaged women whose profile and pics interested me and who lived near me and were in my age range and who didn't state a preference for men of an age band that I didn't fit.

I always read the profile and tried to say something interesting/intriguing and maybe even witty about something or preferably some thingS in their profile which had a link to my life and personality.

I never mentioned their looks in an initial message, because I figured women on this site must get sick to the back teeth of guys only interested in the physical side. Compliments on looks came later, when we'd established whether there was some kind of conversational rapport.

Also, I've noticed quite a few guys on here tend to be self-deprecating about themselves. "I don't know if I'm nice - hehe!" We all know our weak points, but focusing on them or showing a lack of confidence in yourself is not a great move. If you don't believe in yourself, no-one else will. That's a horrible old cliche, but it's also totally true. If you're an average-looking guy, confidence can make up for some of that. If you're an average-looking guy and say "I know I'm not great-looking", that will not work too often.

In short - show real interest in the woman and show a hint of your own quality without being a tosser about it.

Over the sea and over the hill!!!! message box is starving to death! even the spiders have moved on!!!!!! I got a promo 3 years ago fancied that long hol in the sun! only tan i wud av got tho wud av been a bar room tan!!!! Solo hols are not my forte!!!!! nothing beats a brill meal and a walk along the beach watching the sun go down!!!! good grief sad or what!!!!!
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