Here it is from a mans point of view:

1) Browse through the pictures, see many beautiful pictures, think of something to write to a particular girl. Now, it cannot be rude, perverted, it has to be nice, but not too nice. Mention her name, but dont mention it formally. Mention how nice she looks, but dont mention how nice she looks too much, tell her your looking for a relationship but dont sound desperate, be a alpha male but dont be too macho, women dont like that, apparently, so magazines have led me believe. Maybe mention that your just looking for fun, but dont make it sound like just want sex.

2) At this point, wack the kettle on, and ponder on how it ever came to this? How and why has dating got so fucking complicated.

3) Resume messages: Finally come up with a funny, polite, non desperate, kind, honest, not too friendly, not too rude, short, not too short message.

4) Pic several, maybe more! Go for 2 dozen, after all your generally interested in chatting. Dating strangers is too heavy, so its kinda networking for chat buddies.

5)Await replies

6) none arrive

7)check the ratios of different dating agencies, notice men looking for women out number women looking for men, usually 10-1.

read discussion boards on topics such as " where are all the good men gone" "men only seem to send me sex messages" "why do men only go for attractive women, or someone they can be seen with as a trophy"

9)Go look in the mirror, get pissed off that you havnt hot cheekbones like Brad, your beer gut wont fuck off, and that your credit card bills just come through the door.

10)Try tell yourself looks dont matter, women arnt like men, theyre more complex in there choices. Inner beauty, humour, gentlemanly conduct, etc etc, are far more important than looks alone, to women.

11) realise number 10 is bollox

12) Get dissolusioned. The fact you are generally looking for someone special, your not out for one thing, your in here because you think the bar scene is naff and chat up lines are cheesy. Your are actually kind, considerate and good fun to be with.

13) more dissolusion!

14) check for messages, none arrive!

15) Go eat a tub of ice cream (yeh we do that to)!

16) Consider changing sexuality!

17) Go meet up with mates for a few jars, talk football, talk women, talk general shit youve been talking for the last god knows how long. Dont mention dating sites, as us men are supposed to be men, not wussies who cant pull. God forbid if your mates found out, even though theyre probely gold members of several themselves.

1 Go to a family party, alone, again! Get asked "when will you get married" reply with a smile, oh, "i just havnt found the right one yet"

19) Drink a large double, talk some bollox about football with some tit who married your 2nd cousin!

20) Come home, check messages, (1message) Great! read message telling me to not be such a cynical twat, posting long drawn out topics entitled "the mans point of view"

XXXXXXX

Matthew

Excellent!!!!

Well I could make a list like that about women have to go through but i wont. I thought that was really funny and interesting to read from the male point of view. Made me laugh loads.
thing is recieving loads of mail from men who couldnt care less about ur mind and soul, who only want sex then to move on to next one is just about the same let down as getting no mail at all! it is very complicated for both sexes it seems, like a womens picture has to be nice but not too flirty or tarty, (cos that 'gives the wrong messege'!) but not too frumpy or u just look ugly and dull. Write interesting things in ur profile, buy god knows why cos men only look at the pictures. Yes ive tried having profiles with no picture but its then the first thing a man asks, "what do u look like" god i could scream!
So yeah this was just a messege to let you know i relate to your situation, albeit from the fem point of view. Good luck in ur search!

So very funny and yet tragically so very true!!

Opening up your FB account and seeing NO messages, despite the fact you have sent THOUSANDS is a painful rejection....

One other thing i'd like to add to this:

After spending that hour composing that perfect message - occasionally when you get a reply - its about 5 words long!!!!

come on ladies - a little more in a msg please (thats if you ever send them!!)
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Well i think women can spot a mile off a messege which has been carefully planned and sent to thousands of women! Who wants to reply to that? It hardly makes you feel picked out from a crowd! i like to feel a man picked me because somethng on my profile meant something to him, not just to have a man cast a net and see what he trawls up!

The first post in this message is pretty much true. I hate to admit that myself.

I like getting messages I can reply to.
And I don't mean 'Hi, i'm *insert name here* wanna chat?' because that will more than likely not get my attention. But I also don't want to read an essay about you. We can read stuff on your profile, thanks!

If you talk about music or a book that is listed on my profile, I will be interested. It shows that you read profiles, and you have at least some interesting things to talk about!

As for looks...telling us that we are pretty doesn't make us feel special. It makes us think that you are sending us messages because you like the way we look. But saying that, compliments are nice. Just not in the first message. Read our profile, pick something out, message us trying to strike up a conversation about it. Once we have replied, then it's ok to call us pretty or whatever.

Thats got to be up there with the best written post i have ever read on a forum absolute class.

Think ive had 2 girls not reply to me, and i only message people for the chatter usually. Strange to say everyone who i have showed me on the cam or met me say i look better than on my pics, could be to do with the fact they are like a year old lol. Il sort the new ones out very soon.

But anyway yeh missme is perfectly right in the fact that im sure you check the pic before you reply.

Yeah it is true that pics do play a major part, thats only natural, after all thats how we evolve right. Unfortunately it does seem that your standard jerk off male who trawls through pics looking to get laid screws it right upfor genuine men, no wonder women are on the defensive, I can understand that fully.

Dont get me wrong attraction is vital, fortunately I do believe, well know, that you can become attracted to someone through there personality, which is the way forward i reckon. Men will always look at pictures, we cant help it, when god created us, he put something in our brains that make us go weak when we see T @ A. WE CANT HELP IT! It just happens, its just unfortunate that your stereotypical alpha male sees it as a trophy, thus getting us men tags such as "bastards" "users" "wankers" etc etc. All of which are valid tags, I as a man agree a great deal of men are bastards, wankers, users! God if only I were gay! Anyway, my point being if you do get a message that doesnt quite hit the spot, dont write the guy off straight away, chances are he just doesnt know what to write, and is probely quite confused as where he stands with this whole dating online experience.

Anyway im off to buy some overpriced magazine with pics of naked girls on the front wearing painted on England tops, with the headline, "101 tips on pulling for the lads"Not really, im off to read the bible, the part where Moses does something really nice or summit!

Ciao

Matt

well I personally need to find someone phsyically attractive in order to have a sexual relationship with them otherwise its just like a friendship. I never go on first impressions though, ive seen great looking men then got talking to them and yuk! put me off with their attitude/personality and vice versa. But hell yeah i need to go weak at the knees when staring into a mans eyes, makes sex great, wouldnt want it any other way. Dont have set types, ive fancied all sorts of different looks, types, it just seems to be there or its not. I think most women would want to 'fancy' the man they are about to have sex with!

It felt like reading about a male version of Bridget Jones darn funny!! The dating game is not all that I know, caught up in it myself. But as I'm concerned, I always think what will come will come....and for the rest, idiots can piss of :d and ow.....the best men still are Ben and jerry