friendbombs.

menace to a roving heart. the word attributed to our very own chikhai, who catagorised it as (and i paraphrase with lack of accurate reproduction) "the loud sound and substantial shaking up of your life by a person whom you earlier thought you could be involved with, but who'd rather have you as a friend"

we've all seen it happen and nary a soul has ever escaped the shrapnel.
therefore - the friendbomb discussion.

let it all pour out about your "friends" whom you harboured/harbour a soft spot for.

personally, friendbomb's suck!
here's my story

y'see i have a classmate of mine - german, a year older, intelligent and a really cool person and lets just say that when you start class anywhere, there's always that girl that catches the rays just right enough to make her glow - thats her - and i can say that she tugged at my heartstrings like Knopfler pulls out a riff from his stratocaster.

ours was a case of opposites attract, she's almost the mirror opposite of me in habits. i'm usually 15 minutes late, she's bang on time. her idea of a good meal has candles and what not, i'm a "foot up on the table with a meal and TV" kind of guy. but what we shared was tons to talk about - we are both argumentative and share a unique sense of humour.

it so happened that we struck off a great friendship. pretty soon i was everywhere with her - talking, learning, appreciating and in some cases, tolerating (she has a bit of a temper issue when she's stressed Laughing )

soon enough friendship grew stronger, and i asked her out for a movie. we had a good time and spent a good time taking the long way home - just walking and talking. at the beginning of the walk, she said plainly that she hoped i was not looking to get it on with her (she's blunt, but its a quality i admire) because she was just out of a relationship and often had her good friends try to become her guy only to make things awkward when they didnt work out.

i swallowed whatever i was going to do or say and told her she could count on me and since then we have been great friends. we talk about everything and she confides in me about everything, even the fact that she doesnt see her current beau going anywhere and she's glad that she has someone to talk to like me.

while i tell myself we are friends - it's diffcult for the heart to realise she will always be that little extra inch out of reach.

I'd really struggle in a situation like that, friends are for life though, so they say.

Hmm the friend zone always a bad place to be. If I fancy them I tend to avoid the friend zone in the first place. I personaly dont think you can be friends with them if you had those kind of feelings for them. Im sure many will contest my statement.

When I first saw this topic I thought it said the Firebomb discussion.

But its never nice to be put in the friend box.

Okay, I'm not going to post on this thread properly yet as I'm about to go out. But I'll leave you with this for starters...

i'll be your friend jellytot .. you need more girlie frends