I was having a think while bored at work this afternoon about online dating. A serious think. Erk! We often have these threads along the lines of... what am I doing wrong? Why does no one ever reply to my messages? Etc. And they usually get the same sort of replies; "Just hang in there and keep trying."

Well it suddenly dawned on me that, on and off, I have been on dating sites now for almost five years.

Five years. Christ on a bike!

So how long do you "hang in there and keep trying" before you decide that it's not going to happen and enough is enough? Well, I've just reached that point today. There has been no big drama or anything. I've just finished a short relationship with someone totally unsuitable that I was only seeing due to lack of anything better (not how it should be, and not fair on either of us), but that's not it.

No, it's the prospect of continuing to go through the same old shit, over and over again ad infinitum. The timewasters, the rudeness, the putting in all this time and effort only to get absolutely no response from people who for the most part don't even know what they want anyway. The people who get your hopes up only to drop you like a brick as soon as anyone "better" comes along. And so on, and so on.

I've never been the type to be down on myself. I think I'm a fairly good looking person, certainly not ugly, and I know that I am a good and decent man. But after five years of this, even I am starting to wonder. It's all just become so dreary and predictable. If a bloke like myself can't find a partner in five years, then something is seriously wrong somewhere.

So, that's it, no more for me. I will be deleting my profiles from the dating sites that I'm on, but keeping an account on here just for the chat in the forums. It's time to turn my attention elsewhere, in fact I think I'm going to forget about looking for a relationship entirely. If I spend the rest of my life alone then so be it.

That is all.

The moment you stop looking, you will be swamped by hundreds of lovely ladies just DYING for your wiggly worm.....

(FACT)

Maybe that's his plan. He has one on here already.

Was about to say goodbye and good luck then on reading the first half of the post moose, but one completing it I see I don't have to.

Oh well, fair enough.
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Sorry to hear you're giving up Moose, but I can understand your reasons.

Glad to hear you're not leaving FB though. Its good to have you around (even if most of it is just drunken nonsense )
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It's never worked before.

(Stopping looking that is.) I have no luck when I'm looking and no luck when I'm not.

I'm glad you are staying

I think that Meg's theory is workable to a point, but when do we really stop looking at all? Humans are social animals, we want, we need companionship.

I went to a job where a mentally ill woman needed to go to the hospital and I was still thinking about how hot the paramedic was.

I've gone all shy now.

moose you are one of the rare normal persons over here don't you dare give up upon us!even if i'm not on the forum that doesn't mean i'm not checking it out.you are my inspiration!p.s.sorry for english mistakes i'm selftaught.

Well i agree with moose666 totally. I think its very rude when people dont reply to your messages, even if its just to say 'no thanks'. I think the dating game is so difficult and complex online and offline. Everyone seems to have hang-ups, types, fetishes, attitudes and mass-expectations. Surely its the most natural thing in the world for two people to want to come together and become partners, but even though the worlds population gets bigger and bigger, everyone seems to be getting more lonely and sad? I dont really have the answer as to why, but my guess is that its some form of social conditioning released through the all-powerful media. Not sure by who, or even why, must be another form of invisible digital control i guess? divide and rule as they say, dont let another dynasty evolve!!