Does anyone else feel like taking a break from the whole "finding the one" business?

I have come to the conclusion I will not find him on here, but I'm not sure he will be found anywhere until I am happier with myself. I'm always ready to think the worst of any situation. So should I give up for a while in order to sort myself out?

I think like often attracts like, so until you feel happier with yourself you'll probably attract other miserable people, so not the best idea really although it can be a sharing supportive connection you make with somebody that serves you both.

I hope whatever situation is making you unhappy will go away soon but you can carry on using the forums here even if you stopped looking for a lover.

you have probably got a point..i am coming to a similar conclusion.. i am only going to resent women if i believe they (and only they) can make me happy..i am scaling down the number of women i approach and just want to be happy on my own

Wow I have to say I didn't quite expect a response as big as that so I won't quote it!

I suppose once you tell someone you like them and would like to be more than just friends you ask them out on a date. That would be the natural inclination. Presuming that when you have just told them you like them, they give some kind of response there and then?

Sounds like you need to meet that woman and find out one way or the other as keeping her at arms length as you both have been is not going to resolve the feelings involved I would have thought?
You never know, you might like the area she lives in once you visit

i've been on a break all year. Women are orrible anyway. They drop crumbs in the bed and steal all the quilt