my wife recently turned around to me and said she doesn't love me anymore,i think she's trying to save herself from her own guilt,she cheated on me last year,we now live apart and im finding it very difficult justifing finding someone else
i was in love with her 100%,but she doesn't love me,life's too short to live on hope that she'll realise that she does love me so
i have to move on,
i have so much to give and im very thoughtful.
i want to be loved and i want to give love in return
how do i start ?
any comments welcome,except hurtful ones
im in quite a dark place but hopeful for the future

Well, you have to make sure you're ready to move on. I know that's stating the obvious, but still.

Start by taking your time.

nice guy ... my advice to you would be to give yourself some time .. and dont think of looking for anyone at the moment .. stay on the forum and just have a laugh for a bit ..

my advice to you would be, stop looking for love, go out with your friends, forget about meeting another woman for now, give yourself some time and space. you will probably find that some time when your out having fun you will meet somebody by chance. if you go out with the attitude that your looking for a woman, chances are you wont find the type of person thats right for you. start doing your own thing again.

take time out usually a third of the last relationship, go out and enjoy your freedom and do your own hobbies, or enrol to cooking or fashion classes there are plenty of women there, dancing ceroc or what ever takes your fancy. But keep your cool and reflect on your past and learn from it. We are human after all no body perfect even if we were in deep loving relationship. Easy and good luck

I agree with everyone on here, take your time. I've had mates that have rushed into new relationships with disastrous results. Get the old love out of your system.

If you go out looking for love, you wont find it. It will sneak up on you by surprise.

I would agree with going out with friends and family, catch up with people who you should have talked to ages ago, and be a bit selfish and do what ever you want to do for a while.

I'm in a similar situation, so I know how tough it can be. For what its worth, I think the main thing is to go out and start enjoy yourself again - someone who is enjoying life and is comfortable with themself is far more attractive than someone who seems desperate for someone else to make them happy.

sheesh, as the oldest and the american advisor...i couldnt give any better advice than what u have already heard...just enjoy life for the time being, cuz u dont want to fall on a rebound...take care...we all have been there in some form or another and wish you well.

im just echoing people here. Take life easy, and try to utilize your newly established freedom.

I know its hard to take advantage of that freedom since your gutted and heartbroken, but take it in small steps. There must have been little things that really irked your wife. Things like eating in bed, or putting your feet on the coffee table, or leaving that piece of underwear on the floor three days running. Do all those things now! If the events are getting to you, or the pain gets intolerable, Do something that you enjoy that really really used to piss her off. Its a self assertion on your part, and its a moment of rebellion that will little by little make you your own man again. There's no need to marry someone again tommorow to purge the bloody woman from your system. Just chill and be selfish for a while.

Best of luck to you man.