Hello,

I am lesbian and in other sites some men don't read my profile first that i'm looking for women, not men, and some of them pretend to be women, which i hate the most. Susie

how sad they are one of my best freinds jo is a lesbian and shes a laugh a minute
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its official got the call back today ladies you have three months or im becoming a monk

I know what you mean about people not bothering to read your profile and then ask you questions later on when its clearly on your profile! It does my head in and I usually don't bother with people if they don't bother to read it it 1st. I mean come on, its not like you get a massive page to do a big profile with anyways. Its just laziness and window shopping most of the time ain't it? LOL. I do find reading profiles essential cos how the hell you supposed to know bout someone if you don't 1st read it? I mean us men aint the best mind readers most of the time .

I hope that people DO read the profilws on here cos I put a lot of time and effort into mine (all of 5 minutes)

Might not seem like long to you, but I could have had sex twice in that time.........

Yeah when I get a message saying "I love your smile" etc. I hit delete now cuz I don't have a photo up!!

I think mine needs revising. My theory is the more effort you put in the more chance you have of scaring people off. So it's either bullshit all the way or just the token favourite bands, authors etc.

'i like drinkin wiv me m8s' seems like a winner. Anything more erudite than that and it's train wreck time.

[quote="chikhai"]I think mine needs revising. quote]

I just looked at your profile, and it seems OK to me, but then I'm a f'kkin bloke so WTF would I know what women think.
At least you've made the effort, some people don't have a photo OR any thing on their profile, it makes me want to send em a blank message..........

I haven't put up a photo cuz I figure if a person is going on looks then they'll be sorely disappointed, but then I suppose my profile don't say alot anyhoos, but i've been chitchatting with a few peeps lately so it dont seem to matter too much.

I had a profile on another dating website and the first thing i wrote in capital letters was don't message me if you don't live in the uk. You would be amazed at how many messages i got from the U.S., with men saying i love your profile and i really think we could could have something going here. WTF???? If you loved my profile you'd realise that you were wasting your time.!!!

It's my theory that a lot of sites (particularly the 'pay' sites)routinely create pretend profiles and send out messages to users saying stuff like 'I really like your profile' in an attempt to create the impression that there's more members than there actually are. And i'll bet that you'll find it pointless replying to these 'date-spam' messages.
So no wonder that we all get messages from people that seem to be totally inappropriate match-wise etc. or obviously 'dont read the profile'.

(only one edit here, but a significant one - spelt 'messages' correctly in the last line, instead of 'massages', which would've been very wrong hahahahaha)

.......out of the 300+ 'hits' my visitor page has had, most are 'men' under 20? And most private messages have been from saucy/hopeful youngsters too.
In "real life" the only time someone that age bothers to speak to me its cuz they want an adults point of view about summat, or they need help with their homework!
Maybe I'm just feeling my age tonite.......

whatever happened to pirakkanaama?

Today I had a pm from a chap who at least made the effort to write more than just "hi" but I checked out his profile and he's married and looking for 'discreet encounters' - I replied, politely but simply pointed out that I don't fit what he is looking for. He responded very nastily and called me unkind names. It's really hurt me to be honest. I never gave my opinion of infidelity or whatever and I never condemned his point of view - i simply said "I'm sorry but I'm not here to meet married men for discreet encounters'.
I chose to simply delete his spiteful response, but that in itself made me feel I was being rude back, but couldn't think of suitabe reply without getting down in the mud with him.
Anybody else had something like this happen to them?
How do you deal with it?
Any advice welcome please!