hey i can understand why you girls dont have a problem finding a man as your all stunning but what of those ladys who like me need to lose a little of the waistline? do they find it so easy to find there one true love???.

why thank you mam, but dont get me wrong i am happy, i have my 2 sons who live with me and i see my younger daughter most weekends, so i have alot to live for and look forward to each day

oh i forgot i also have my pain in the bum puppy lol
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A friend of mine told me once " any kid can father a child but it takes a man to be a father"
My last partner had a little boy of 2 years old when I met her and it was a culture shock for me to say the least. She always pushed me to take on the role of his father which I never felt comfortable with as I wasnt his natural father. His natural father was down the pub every night and visted every 2 weeks if we were lucky and I always offered him a cuppa as I didnt want any animosity even though he never paid any maintenance.
Over 2 years I took on the role of his father but rarely raised my voice and never hit him being as I had been hit by step parents and i wanted to treat him right. I would sometimes have to take over from my partner who would shout and scream at him and then hit him because I hated seeing that. I made his dinners occasionally and bathed him and read him stories most nights after I put him to bed. I took him to playgroup and even helped out when I had no work. I also took him out to the park or walked the dogs.
It hurts now because having parted with my girlfriend I miss "my little man" as I called him and familly life and I am sure he misses me. I am sure it will be along time before she finds someone who can fill my shoes. Sad to say I went through hell because of what she had been through in her life and I never had any trust or respect from her.
My point is that I dont think many men want to take on other peoples kids but there are some who will make better parents than a childs natural parents. I tried to let my partner have the main say in his upbringing but I was there to support and be the father he never had.
I think 1 or 2 kids already is ok with me but i would be reluctant to take on any more than that as I would like 1 or 2 kids in my own right! Then again it depends on the person, sometimes we cant choose who we love.