well ive got two kids, and as far as dating/relationships go ive not had a partner who has been bothered that i have kids, the ones ive met who have had problems with it didnt last long...just wanting your opinions really....thought it was a good conversation starter...

I would happily date a guy that had kids. It wouldn't be a problem for me because i like children(if they aren't bratty...)

i am 20 years old ive got 1 child and as far as relationships go i havent had one since my sons fater and havent been with a man since then aswell what do you think could be wrong with me any suggestions

Kid,s dont bother me has i also dont mind kids. but i guess some guys just run a mile.

Hello,

I'm a single dad and my kids are the single biggest concern I have right now. While it would be great to find a companion to ease the lonely times I would never overlook something that could potentially distance me from my children. It may seem overly cautious but as I see it, we only get one chance at being a part of our children's lives and I'm not gonna miss this for anything. Maybe I'm being a bit gun-shy after getting hurt the first time but somehwere deep down there's a constant battle between the hopeless romantic and the responsible dad in me.. lol

As for single women dating men with children.. count this as a bonus because you get to see what kind of a father your man is without having to wonder. Actually, I've had more glances/approaches/smiles when I have the kids out with me ..slight "daddy-benefits" .. lol

As I've been told countless times.. the one true love will find you before you find her

Cheers.

I am a mum of a 2 year old and i have not really had any problems when it comes to men willing to accept that my son is no.1. infact i find that most men i talk to are very understanding of this. Yes there are some that are scared of the commitment and worried about hurting anyone and to be honest i respect a guy when he comes out and says this straight away.
But meh im still single lol
to be honest i am not activly looking to meet the love of my life just a lot of friends and then maybe if i click with one particular person then thats an added bonus.

I've got a son who is 10, I've not had problems dating men, altho some of them do tend to be a bit jealous but I suppose its went both ways, but at end of the day he's my main priority I wldnt let some1 meet him till I was sure just to prevent him being hurt!! The most importnat thing is to be a good mum/dad and still live ur own life L. x

well im 20 and ave a 4 year old son!! ive had 3 relationships since his dad left me but they never worked out 1 coz ov my son coz men jst run a mile if they know u ave kids!! jst b a mother aswell as a women!! u need ur life 2!! and my mom has always told me the rite guy will cum along and he will love me and love my son!! so all i need 2 do is wait 4 him 2 find me!! dnt try and find him let him find u!!! thats wot i think neway!!! i mite b wrong and i mite not b

Girls my lovely Mummies on you it is a pity to me that have thrown you!! But it does not mean a doomsday!! Yes it is important when you meet the guy to not lose the attitude with the son and a daughter! It is very important!! If that is jealous you сажите to it it has gone where on further!! I am surprised here muzhiks as they throw the wife with the child here 2 reasons either you were guilty very seriously or it the ladies' man or the moron, excuse me that I so вырожаюсь but such as they and spoil all!! Though I and the muzhik and at me was not present children and consequently so easily mentally I speak but don't need to throw the child and the wife!! But привсем it it is not necessary to do it Men!!!

I put my replies in this one post - here goes:-

chicksister - Puzzling and unhelpful as this may sound, i don't think there is anything really anything wrong with you. Many people question themselves like that (me included) when they feel strongly at odds with some aspect of their being. Mine is similar to yours in some way (i.e. how come there are good women falling for bad men, while an ok guy like me still single?)

MochaLover - sometimes, when i think of all the experiences i've had with my young nephews and nieces, i wish i was a dad. But now i think that's not going to happen. I still feel inclined to agree with you about "the one true love will find you before you find her", because i feel it is the women who do the choosing in the mating game.

babygirkuk - I found your post very interesting. Your last few relationships not working out - hmm... if this really was because you have a son, then consider this - he's 4 now, and I hope he's not getting a negative idea about himself that he's an 'obstacle' to your life and any relationships that you want with men. Do you see where i'm coming from?
Ah yes, your mum has always told you "the right guy will cum along and he will love you and love your son". My parents told me a similar thing too. Though I no longer dwell on the luxury of such dreams. Lately I've been facing my stark reality, in which I am still single, still searching, and at times (dare i say) considering resigning to the possibility that my proverbial "princess" may NEVER come, and i've just got to deal with it somehow.

i understand what you are saying nikkisplat but you see there must be something wrong with me because i havent got or even had to coffidence to go out with my mate since everything happened with my sons dad 4yrs ago and know all of my old friends have said they just cant be bothered with me because of everything thats happened what should i do i really wanna find a man but havent got the confidence to go out on my own and do so HELP

I dont have children but I have plenty of single friends that do. The thing is it is way too easy for a man to say 'dont worry, I love kids' but it is a massive adjustment especially if they dont have any of their own already.

Just a thought.