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17.04.2008, 18:13
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Bliss23

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Here's what I found written on some profile of a lady: "I have been
single now for a few years, of my choice."

What do y'all think of this? Can you actually be single by choice or do you just use that to cover up what you couldn't get...

I mean... Say one would choose to be single for 1 year... What if someone really great comes along during this year... Would anyone have the balls of saying "sorry, but I've chosen to be single this year"?
And could anyone afford a year or two being single by choice when life's so short?
But then again... We get back to... Do we really need to be in a relationship?

I don't really know what I wanted to have comment on by bringing this up, but I have decided at one point in my life that for about a year I'll say no to lurve. That doesn't mean I'd be single, maybe even in a relationship, but nothing too heavy, at least not from my side. And I haven't managed to keep this up. Embarassed
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17.04.2008, 18:18
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baggiebhoy

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Some people can just do it Bliss. They don't need anybody elses company, they are just happy doing their own thing regardless of what comes along.

And if you want to talk about the sex aspect, some people just don't need it, or will just go out and have one night stands when they do.
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17.04.2008, 18:25
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moose666

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Yeah, you can be single by choice. I've done it myself in the past. There have been times in my life where being with someone would have complicated things and distracted me from more important things, and other times where I was happy just being single and didn't want to be with anyone. I'm quite happy with myself and my own company, and the company of my good friends. Having someone special in my life isn't something I desperately need, it's just a bonus. So yeah it's quite possible to choose the single life, and nothing wrong with it either. Wink
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17.04.2008, 18:32
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megalone

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I am actually in that category, as I would class myself as single by choice.
It is pretty easy to go out and find someone, all it takes is a little effort (in my opinion before I get abused).
That being said though, I'm just not actively looking, if someone wonderful came along that caught my eye, of course I would make the effort.
It isn't anything to do with trying to cover up what I can't get, or any luck of success, just I have had a rough time in my last relationship (which I am over now), and decided to go it alone for a while, how long that will last, I don't know!
Things are changing though for me, there have been a one (or two) people who have definately 'caught my eye', and for me that is an accomplishment, bearing in mind that my old saying not so long ago was :

"Women, enough to make you wanna turn gay!"

I do still like the sound of it though, but I use it less and less as time goes on.......
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17.04.2008, 18:37
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No one is single through choice. They either have such high standards that they wouldn’t soil their life with anyone who doesn’t fit their perfect criteria, …divorced with kids and are worried about introducing yet another person into their children’s life, who hit the road after it turns to shit or are just to lazy to actually put the effort into finding someone . After all does anyone actually want to grow old alone? Sure you have your friends but they have their own life’s and partners and are they going to be there when you need them the most? I’m feeling very honest tonight
 
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17.04.2008, 18:42
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I have been single by choice all my life. Is maybe causing me one or two problems now though. I have had loads of offers, but haven't really wanted it.....not sure if I do now. One of the big dilemmas in my life at the moment.

I have missed out on loads of lovely women and lots of sex because of it. But it was my choice.
 
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17.04.2008, 19:51
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i am single by choice, as ive been concentrating of other aspects of my life, but why am i on a dating site you may ask..
im not gonna rule out a relationship and i have turned people down, and not let something build up any further then just mates.
but i dont wanna cut my losses so im looking but not really chasing anybody as such
 
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17.04.2008, 20:28
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baxter8 wrote:
i am single by choice, as ive been concentrating of other aspects of my life, but why am i on a dating site you may ask..
im not gonna rule out a relationship and i have turned people down, and not let something build up any further then just mates.
but i dont wanna cut my losses so im looking but not really chasing anybody as such


Sounds like me 25 years ago.



Not sure why I'm on dating sites because I'm not really interested in a date, or getting sex for that matter. On the other site I go on I turn down dates with women that contact me and want to meet me, I rarely contact women.
On this site the only contact I get is from Russian scammers.

I stopped having relationships in my early 20's, to 'concentrate on other aspects of my life', but there was probably a another reason/problem I wasnt facing up to, personally.

Probably best to have a relationship now and again, wish I did. I've been saying for years I'll have to force myself into a relationship. Not sure what I want now.
 
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17.04.2008, 20:30
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I am single by choice..and considered what Jim said about having high standards, and yeah if I'm honest I probably do..not materialistically in any measure, but I know what I want from a guy (I think) I just wanted to be treated how I would treat somebody and so far since I divorced I have never met anyone that wants what I want..so yeah not actually looking for anybody at the moment..my life is fulfilled with work..kids..grandson..and like Megs says..I just go with the flow, and if 'he' appears then it's a bonus..
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17.04.2008, 20:33
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"I couldn't help but wonder..." Was this bonus thing they were speaking of just a way of saying they're just not that into it anymore, by one reason or another?
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17.04.2008, 21:32
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but this is a dating site lmao, ...if anyone says they are happy alone it makes me laugh cos why else are you here? ....for the gripping conversation? lol
 
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17.04.2008, 21:35
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shiftygeezer wrote:
but this is a dating site lmao, ...if anyone says they are happy alone it makes me laugh cos why else are you here? ....for the gripping conversation? lol


Exactly......I dont think sooooooo
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17.04.2008, 21:48
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moose666 wrote:
Yeah, you can be single by choice. I've done it myself in the past. There have been times in my life where being with someone would have complicated things and distracted me from more important things, and other times where I was happy just being single and didn't want to be with anyone. I'm quite happy with myself and my own company, and the company of my good friends. Having someone special in my life isn't something I desperately need, it's just a bonus. So yeah it's quite possible to choose the single life, and nothing wrong with it either. Wink


Yeah this says it for me too. I spent years choosing to be single and not bothering about relationships. Now I would still say I'm happy being single, but I like to have more male company and friends these days, partly because I no longer work in an environment where I come into contact with loads of people, so chatting on the web and having dates here and there is how I like it for the time being.
Haven't a clue what I'd do if I actually fell in love with someone along the way as I've really been trying to steer clear of men who are wanting long term relationships.
 
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17.04.2008, 21:51
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i am single by choice its just not my choice (if that makes sense)
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17.04.2008, 21:51
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Well.. To those of you who are single by choice... Respect.
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