Is there anything wrong with 'serial dating' on the net?

Ive decided to start going on dates to meet some of the women I'm chatting to on the net, but thinking about packing it in

I was chatting to a women on another site who has wanted to meet me for a while, I thought I'll be honest and tell her I'm going on a few dates with other women, she asked me 'are you a serial dater?' which stumped me a bit.

Although she still might be interested she has gone a bit cold.

How else are you supposed to get to know women without meeting/dating them? Or is honesty not the best thing in this case. I dont like doing things behind peoples backs, but dont want to be seen as a two timer.

I only meet women that show an interest in me first, and always make it plain I might not be interested in a relationship but only as 'friends'.

I dont expect to have a long term relationship with any of these women, but you never know.

Never really thought of it like that & i've not been asked that yet .....perhaps that classes me as a serial dater too then so how do you get to know these people if you dont meet up? after chatting for hours on end online/phone or whatever it would be nice to think you will get to meet them at some point surely? I only ever meet people I think I click with & meeting them is just the last stage to see if you get on & click with face to face, does'nt always work out but if you dont take a chance you will never know ....will you? Like you Jegs I have come to the conclusion that I may never meet someone for a LTR but i'm still thinking that maybe it is possible I was asked lastnight if I would be his gf but my answer was "but we have not even met yet" Dont give up thats what I say....i'm not
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Jeggae, just say to them:

'Look how good looking I am, do you seriously think that you would be the only one wanting a date with me?!'

I tried that once, didn't see her again.

Each to their own eh Jegs.......

As it's something that we do on an average night out, you may talk to lots of women/men which is basically the same thing and it's good to keep your options open until you have decided to commit to one person. Most successful relationships often start out as a friendship first. Physical attraction is one thing but can you live with your choice for lifetime? So I believe that "serial dating" is absolutely fine and I believe that honesty is always the best policy, things would be a million times worse if one woman you were chatting to happened to see you with another woman when each of them think they have something exclusive going on with you!

I agree with what has been said so far in that if you want to really know what someone is like or if you have an attraction to them you should meet them in person.

I don't understand this name of serial dating though - not with online dating anyway. If you were to meet someone in the street that you liked the look of or possibly what they said to you peaked your interest then you would be decided straight away whether you wanted to see them again or not. With online dating you don't have that option, although you can partially gauge those that you may want to or not want to meet online you can never be sure until you are talking face to face.

It sounds to me that the phrase serial dating is not given a positive light, but in the circumstances it is a must to really get to know the people we speak to online.

Looking at it from Jeg's lady friend's point of view. She may have thought that she was the only person you were talking to and said that because she was hurt to realise that she wasn't. It is naive on her account that she would think that you have no contact with other women and that your time online is totally devoted to her. If she is someone you would like to meet in the future I hope she realises that to expect to be the one and only of someone you have never met in real life is a bit too much to ask!

I thought serial dating was where you met up with people and only had the intention of seeing them once or maybe twice before moving on to the next regardless of whether you liked them or not.

Which doesn't seem to be what you intend.
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Yeah seems very odd to me too. But a mate of mine seems to do it. I think he's still getting over last relationship.

Asked him once why he wasn't seeing one of them again he replied "It could lead to a more permanent thing. Which is bad!"

One of a few he's tried to get me to go after once he's seen them. Erm, thanks but no.
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Hmmm... i think Jegs my lil chickadee, you knew the answers you would get from this topic, as i knew the answers that would be given as soon as i read your initial posting...but as everyone else has had their two penneth, heres mine too... (cant be leaving me out now people!)

I think serial dating is a more negative term for keeping your options open. As has been said, how the hell are you supposed to know if you have an attraction to someone you are talking to until you meet them face to face?

Myownalias - you are almost proof that you can talk on line to someone and get along famously, but then when you meet up, it just doesnt work.

Jegs, my advice to you would be to try not to call it a date. If they want to meet up for a drink/cinema/meal whatever, then tell them yeah, fine, great, but try and get it in somewhere that it isnt a date!

And at the end of the day, remember that it is only a date (or a meeting...lol) and you are not sleeping with these women (i dont think) so you have nothing to worry about! Dont let anyone make you feel bad for getting out there and meeting new people.

And yeah, she was probably shocked that you were talking to other people, but if thats the case, then its her own stupid naivety thats made it harder for her to stomach... i mean come on, Jegs - bet they are lining up for "dates..."

xx

Some while ago I tried to get this topic discussed but don't think I managed to put it into words so well as to what I was meaning, but 'serial dating' seems to be one way.

From my perspective, I was/am finding it difficult to 'space' my opportunities so it was/is only possible for me to be in the position of saying "there are other men in my life" which I thought encompassed the whole on-line dating stages...such as being on msn, messaging, meeting and so on.

Reaction to being honest is not always good but I couldn't be any other way. I don't want life to pass me by, whilst I'm waiting for a guy to have a clear weekend in which to meet me, yet somebody else will meet me sooner. The thing is, I don't really want to have loads of men in my life as serial dating suggests, but I do want to meet enough men in the real world to make any relationship choices that could affect my future.

So, yes, I think we have to meet different people and it's also likely that the other person would be doing the same.
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