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28.06.2007, 14:14 quote
| CMISO wrote: |
| Would you write to anyone like with a profile like that anyway? *
Plus you missed the usual "I like having fun". Always a winner. That last bit agrees with what's she's been saying though doesn't it? * unless they'd been posting on the forums I doubt I would, but then you are going off what they've been saying on there as much as the profile anyway. |
I do agree in principle, but it's a circular argument though, and it gets old fast. It goes something like this...
Women: Lots of poorly thought out or crass messages.
Men: Not enough information to form a genuinely decent message.
Its a problem thats not going to go away unless both sides do their part.
For what it's worth I've as good as given up on sending out messages (it even says so in the scrolling text on my profile now). Mainly because you're playing a numbers game, and the signal to noise ratio that women must suffer probably means that the good stuff gets flushed away with the bad. But also because if you're only average looking you're pissing in the wind.
Someone has to be doing something special to get a message from me now, and even then (as you've stated already) it's based on what they've posted here rather than their profile.
In terms of positive responses the passive approach is paying off so far.
28.06.2007, 14:28 quote
| chikhai wrote: |
| For what it's worth I've as good as given up on sending out messages (it even says so in the scrolling text on my profile now).
In terms of positive responses the passive approach is paying off so far. |
The longest relationship (over 4 years) I've had off a dating site started when she messaged me a little irate that I'd viewed her page (once) without sending a message.
Another one started when I viewed her page a few times and she asked why I was so interested but hadn't messaged. Her profile was although interesting was written in such an aggressive/moody way that I didn't really know what to say in a message. I told her she needed to tone it down a little.
What I should have done was run for it straight away, the profile fitted her well. Could have saved 3 or 4 months there.
28.06.2007, 14:39 quote
| CMISO wrote: | ||
The longest relationship (over 4 years) I've had off a dating site started when she messaged me a little irate that I'd viewed her page (once) without sending a message. Another one started when I viewed her page a few times and she asked why I was so interested but hadn't messaged. Her profile was although interesting was written in such an aggressive/moody way that I didn't really know what to say in a message. I told her she needed to tone it down a little. What I should have done was run for it straight away, the profile fitted her well. Could have saved 3 or 4 months there. |
*puts rabbit in the pan*
hey! what are you saying?????
28.06.2007, 14:43 quote
| SarahRothman wrote: |
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*puts rabbit in the pan* hey! what are you saying????? |
I find that nailing loved family pets to the front door also works.
28.06.2007, 14:51 quote
| 8legs wrote: | ||
I find that nailing loved family pets to the front door also works. |
I can't find nails small enough for sea monkeys....
28.06.2007, 14:55 quote
| SarahRothman wrote: |
| *puts rabbit in the pan*
hey! what are you saying????? |
Fortunately I don't have a rabbit, besides from what I read in other forums on here they have suddenly become a pet that all women want.
28.06.2007, 19:54 quote
| Jeggea wrote: |
| Maybe each women should put their own 10 commandments on their profiles so the poor sods who send out messages know where they stand ? |
One problem with that Jeg......these blokes would have to read our profiles first which most of them so obviously dont
28.06.2007, 20:16 quote
| Cazzabee wrote: | ||
One problem with that Jeg......these blokes would have to read our profiles first which most of them so obviously dont |
Not sure why not....I enjoy reading women's profiles, especially new ones on here ..and it does give you a better chance of a reply. Whether the reply was worth the effort is another thing
28.06.2007, 20:19 quote
Think thats the problem though...most of the types of guys we are looking at see a pretty picture on a profile and dont bother to read any further!!
28.06.2007, 20:25 quote
| Cazzabee wrote: |
| Think thats the problem though...most of the types of guys we are looking at see a pretty picture on a profile and dont bother to read any further!! |
I can believe it....and some of the women need lessons on how to reply to messages to make it easier for men, instead of just typing an answer then 'lol'..we need a bit of reaction like asking us questions.
28.06.2007, 20:34 quote
| Cazzabee wrote: |
| Think thats the problem though...most of the types of guys we are looking at see a pretty picture on a profile and dont bother to read any further!! |
Oh, right. You know, in all the time I've been here, I never realised there were words on people's profiles.
Seriously, though, I still can't believe that anyone thinks the ratios matter very much. The stuff the girls have said so far, to me, suggests that they are quick & efficient at dealing with the signal to noise ratio for starters.
What's more, I don;t see how even a 10:1 ratio in favour of men here is going to make any decent woman more likely to read and reply to a shit message, or just one that doesn't appeal to them. I mean, they're not stuck here, they all have other avenues and options like everybody else.
28.06.2007, 20:55 quote
| Cazzabee wrote: |
| Lol |
Another one with a cross near her name
you'll probably be pleased to know
28.06.2007, 21:07 quote
just curious - but what about blokes who do go through the time and effort to read someone's profile?
i just read one about someone doing volcanology - not exactly nailing a small defenseless rodent to the door quality - but talkable yes.
cribbing apart - do the men who actually qualify the ten commandments of messaging ever get to stage two - i.e. actually being messaged back?
unrelated to all this - butevery topic i seem to touch dies, i wonder why?
28.06.2007, 21:10 quote
| Jeggea wrote: | ||
Another one with a cross near her name
you'll probably be pleased to know |
You dont mean that.....
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