I've had a puzzling conversion with a women on another site this morning. But maybe I'm naive.

The background is. She joined about a week or so before my mum died. We had a lot of fun in messages and on the forums. We were discussing meeting. When My mum died I deleted my profile on there, mainly because I was getting a lot of messages and didn't want to be rude by ignoring them. I told a good mate on there why I was deleting and asked her to tell people why I was leaving for a while.

I rejoined a week or so later to thank people in a thread that was started about me. This lady was a bit offish towards me, but I did keep a low profile for a few weeks.

Since then in all the 'would you shag the above' type threads, I was always positive towards her, but she has been a bit negative towards me.

Couple threads recently 'who would you shag' and 'who would you like to meet', she didn't name me but all the usual suspects that the women always name. But like this site no one ever names me anyway But then I do get a lot of hypocrisy on there, as women often tell me in messages they'd like to meet me again [after meets], but ignore me on the forums.

Had a bit of a barny [good natured] with her this morning, first messages since Ive been back. I said she has been a bit offish with me and never mentions me on the forums, but does other men. She said '..Don't you get it?....i don't name people on the threads that i'm serious about!!!...i like to keep my private life private....As for me not being the same....when you came back and didn't contact me i thought you wasn't interested anymore...so......are you?.....or aren't you??....
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I'm a bit puzzled by this as I told her I always let people I know even on the forums, if I like them. I've no doubt the women is genuine. But its a bit like game playing.

Do all women think like this on forums?..do men think like this?...does this mean that by ignoring me on this message board, all the women here fancy me?? [tongue in cheek]

Thanks if you have read this far. Maybe I'm making a meal out of it, maybe its immature, but fuck it its only the net

But I'd really like any views on this. If not just ignore me, I wont take it as any indication of attraction

Women have a right to be emotional, and to make decisions that appear to be arbitrary, as far as I'm concerned. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Women puzzling men have been the subject of male philosophers, writers and poets since the human condition has examined.

Just as Miyamoto Musashi, author of the Book of the Five Rings, recommends people preparing to engage in mortal combat to accept death - I would recommend people preparing to date to accept heartache and sorrow. This way you are ready for worst that such dangerous activities can deal you!

We are always prone to misstep, to make mistakes and to receive judgement from others. The wise man tries to as stoic and philosophical as possible to these knock-backs whilst seeking to enjoy life.

Hmm, I appear to be feeling a bit Zen today ...

Thanks mate for a nice post. I don't understand any of it, but it is a nice post

it sounds to me jeggae like she is interested in you anyways so what you worrying about just get on with it! i think her point a good one about not lettin on to everyone if she likes someone no harm to keep your cards close to your chest - i always think these ones on here who get together and make a big deal of it well its all a bit of a show isnt it? they seem to rush into things and get a big thrill out of everyone knowing they are together and more often than not nothing comes of it..... and the game playing - yes we all do it sure isn't that half the fun off it and a little bit of a chase does no harm..

I f I was you, I'd see about getting her number, and chatting to her on the phone, that way you would probably get a better idea of how much she likes you.

I agree with both of the above, if she is really interested she will want to talk to you. and as for the 'public show' ............. could not agree more

You didn't contact her so she thought you weren't interested so stopped making a point of it. Now you have questioned her on this she is asking you if you are interested or not. I would say she is a little confused by your actions (possibly as much as you are with hers).

If you like her tell her and see what happens. if she ends up not being so into you, you haven't lost much - as you say, it's just the net.

Does that speciality come with a side salad?

politegorilla wrote:

jeggae wrote: Thanks mate for a nice post. I don't understand any of it, but it is a nice post Glad you liked it! Offering cryptic advice is a speciality of mine ...