So it seems to me over the years I've taken alot of risks meeting up with people etc and its very easy to get drawn in especially when you really get talking and think you know someone.

I'm interested to know how others deal with this, what makes your alarm bells ring, how do you suddenly tell someone youre not interested etc.

Hopefully you get what I mean!

I just do it. But make sure I have
1. a phone on me,
2. meeting in a crowded place
3. call the person before hand
4. see them on Webcam, and have pleanty of pictures of them.

I guess it's not so much of a risk to a guy, but it happens.

My advice would be - make sure you get a full-length photo of someone before agreeing to drive half the length of the country to meet them

IN the example i'm thinkning of it turned out to be a lovely date (&c.) but you never know...

yeah, seeing somebody on webcam does pretty much make things easier.

And the full length pictures. (If you are that shallow, but i can understand why people would want to see pictures!)

i get what u mean, and it sucks when it happens. met this guy off another site, we spent the whole day together, coz we'd arranged to do so previousally but he was so boring in the flesh. and he wasnt as intelligent as i thought he was either, it really sucked. i couldnt get away from him, and it was really nasty telling him later i wasnt interested in him in that way. i took the chicken opten though and told him i wasnt ready for a relatioship, but that i wanted to be friends with him. really wish i'd just said it striaght, coz he still likes me now, and every time were on msn together he does the 'i miss u, when u next in york so we can meet up' thing, it makes me really uncomfortable. now i try and c it as, i dont know this person well,so wont hurt their feelings forever if i just tell them striaght, and they'll respect me more if i tell the truth.

When I first started looking on the net I used to meet guys for lunch... that way it was in daylight in a public place and I knew I had to be back at work by a certain time, so was easy to get away.

Anyone I met at other times I used to get my mum to ring me at certain times and tell at least 2 different people where I was, I also had a buzz word I could text and they would know something was wrong.

when ive met people, i always have a buzz word to text one of my mates(usually from the loos)...she gives it five minutes then phones my mobile, i then make my excuses, and say ive gotta go....never had to use it yet like....hopefully never will.
another thing i'd say is dont arrange to meet for lunch on a first date...if things aint going well ur stuck through the whole meal with them...just go for drinks.

In the past I've always arranged a "simple date", usually just to meet for a coffee/drink. I figure if she is interested then we can go from there. If I'm not interested I usually keep it to an hour or two and try to be honest and never leed her on. Sometimes if that doesn't work, I'll send a non-offensive email saying, I'm sorry but I just don't think it will work because *****. I hate it when people are rude to me so I try to be very diplomatic and honest. Its never caused me any problems yet.

well i have had a bad situation once i got stalked for months luckly he went after the police turned up one night but some usefull info i was given was that before you meet
1 talk with them on the phone make sure the number they gave you is valied.
2 make sure you see them on webcam and prit out a picture of them
3 make a note of all details their name area they live in ect and leave in an envelope on you table or better still tell someone where your going.
4 meet in a public place
5 never go back to someones flat or them back to yours on the first date
6 if possible have a code so that if you feel that the date is going badley go to the toilet text help to a friend so they will call you in 10 mins telling you to come home for an emergency.

the guy that stalked me incase you were wondering got 3 months and a hefty fine turned out i was one of 3 people he was doing it too

I would love to take all your good advice and put it into practice....................but don't you have to meet some one first......ah thats whats I'm getting wrong.

me im always tempted to eat and suck a ladys pussy but never have with flings unless it turns into a relationship

I've stuck to the MSN/Webcam route and have not had any disappointments. Met two people and they will remain life-long friends. We had long chats and got to know eachother very well before meeting.

and if you don't have MSN or a cam?