yes it is

im edging towards saying its cheating because wether or not anything happens in reality the suggestion is still there. It is a difficult one to answer tho.

Ohhh this is a good one!

Cybersex... hmm. Depends on your ability to feel you can communicate on a level other than the 'wham, bam, thank you, ma'am' approach. personally I think a meeting of minds, a CONNECTION is the absolute prerequisite of any attempt of 'cybering'. What is the point of sex ('real' or cyber) if you are not involved emotionally with the person you are about to cyber with? Don't understand the point of it otherwise. I'm simply not into one-night stands whether that is for 'real' or in the tricky world of cybersapace!

Any views on this?

Of course it's cheating! It is the act of deceiving one's partner. One must ask oneself when in such a predicament: Would my other half be pleased with these actions? If the answer is no, and yet one carries on, it is wrong and a betrayal.

phone sex!

Again here is that communication thing, If you are in a relationship thats good and satisfying why netsex. I have seen alot of it and I tell them sorry, i dont step on toes there are plenty of singles out there without netsexing with a taken mate, unless of course you are really kinky and like that.

I think it depends what you mean by cyber sex. If you're talking about doing things on cam, where two people watch each other doing things to themselves while the other gets off on it, then I would go as far as to say that's almost cheating.

Although saying that (and I'm just playing Devil's Advocate here), what is the difference between that and watching porn? Is watching porn cheating?

I would assume that this sort of thing would be done while their partner was away for some reason. If you were doing it instead of doing things with them, that'd be a problem, but it would be if you were watching porn rather than doing stuff with them.

Is it that different?

Ed

Hi, Well I would rather do the real thing than act out with what would be a stranger however long you had spoken to them "Online". Yes I believe also it is a class of cheating when in a full blown relationship you cyber or flirt etc, you have the intention, to seek sexual gratification with that person be it real or not it could be, and I would see it like that, and im sure a left out partner would.

Sorry If the spelling messed up but it is 5 am and there are big words like marmalade in there.

Mark

I'd say Yes definately cheating.
never done it either - dont find my moniter sexy enough
Even if the thoughts are there then its time to get out of the relationship yer in.
Am sure anyone who thinks it aint cheating wouldn't like their partner to be doing it! Not unless they are that way inclined and both upfront about it.

Sitting in front of a plastic box and typing words is not cheating.

Yes I think it is cheating on real life partner. Touching yourself for another person, although the person is not with you but that is the same as physical contact with another person hence cheating. Cheating definiton is not limited to physical contact only I think.

Well it is human nature to experience passion even outside marriage...Janis Chopin "The Storm".

But you live once, we all have lifespans, if you desire to be with someone else or not happy not fulfilled in life, you have to move on. Why endure less, settle for less with 1 life to live.

i don't think its cheatin but i think u should tell ur partner if u r doin it other wise it is wrong

depends on your feelings for your cyber guy/girl. sometimes cheating can be wishing you were with this person or that person while you are with someone else. if i ever got into a situation like that i would say it right out and i would hope someone would say it to me too. doesnt matter whether its in cyber space or in real life. feelings are feelings. easily hurt.

now dont go thinkin im a prude or a "bunny boiler".... i just think that if someone puts thier heart in your hands you are duty bound to take care of it until you no longer want it. hand it back and say goodbye. i have stayed mates with all my exes bar one. the dreaded ex. the absentee father. baldylocks and the three hairs. haha.

no seriously guys.... aint there enough people out there that have hurt you in the past...why hurt someone else?
so if i felt like i had more feelings for my computer than my fella i would definitely finish things.

I think a number of people posting here are confused by the question. That’s hardly a surprise in itself, because the question itself is confusing –‘cheating’ should not defined by any particular acts! The reciprocal is also true; no particular act can be labelled ‘cheating’ without qualifying circumstances.

Anyone who has been cheated on will understand that the breach of trust hurts the most, and the longest. People may decide to put their own values on this, and that is up to each couple to define, although all too often the definition comes when the damage is done...

To all those making comments such as “what’s the point anyway?”... have you never constructed a relationship from words? How about having a loved one move far away? I’ll certainly agree with the sentiment of “what’s the point?” in the context of teenagers exposing themselves to strangers via a webcam, but words can be very powerful. I urge everyone with a partner to sometime explore the art of romance beyond physical acts!