Right, firstly Im not asking this to try and clarify my online relationship, i just wanted to know others opinion on the topic.

Ok, you have met a person off the net, talked lots, get on really well, start to like them, maybe develop feelings and have plans to eventually met up.

Would you class yourself as in some kind of relationship with the person, therefore not going near another person? If you did go on a date with another person, would that be classed as cheating??

I know this sounds stupid, but for me, i would class myself as free and single and can do as i please, not saying i would go from one guy to the next, but until i meet that person, possibly several times, i wouldnt class myself as in a relationship.

I ask because it is clear to me that other people may think differently on the topic and i wanted to know what other people feel about it?

I would say technically you were still single until you both had met a few times and then agreed on what you both wanted. Just because you get on well over the net and are attracted to each others pictures or what you see via webcam, doesnt necessarily mean there would be chemistry in real life.
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I have a problem with this issue on the web too.

For example, I had guy 1 take an interest in me and I liked him, then guy 2 came along the next day, who I also liked.

I had told guy 1 I was single

I told guy 2 that I had some interest in another man who I was likely to meet.

Guy 2 said 'well meet me first'.

So now I feel some loyalty to guy 1, but then I remember how many 'chats' with people just fizzle out....so I decided to meet guy 2.

As it happened, guy 1 vanished after some time even though we had lots in common and he was nearer my age.

Now me and guy 2 meet and get on well, say we'll meet again, but both of us are busy and the time moves on.... so when guy 3 comes along and wants to meet, I meet him aswell, as I hadn't heard from guy 2 for a while...... but should I have done or should I not have met him? Was I single or not? Are they all just casual boyfriends or 'flings'

I suppose for me, unless somebody makes it clear that we're in a relationship, in which case I would have no problem being 100% loyal, then it seems to me I'm single.
Sometimes, I would say I'm single, but not free in my mind to meet another guy, even if it might turn out to be non-starter with the one I want to be with.
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The way I see it, if I start to feel there are possibilities of a relationship with someone from the net, then I try to meet up ASAP. Only meeting in real life can resolve whether or not to go further.

If for some reason we can't meet up, then I'm careful not to get too attached.

As the old saying goes: don't make someone your priority if they only make you an option.

This is a really tough subject, although I used to believe I have solid opinions on it...

In the end, after long thoughts lol, I think it really depends on

1. If you've had a talk about it

2. Each person's morals and what they feel for the other person (and if they're willing to take a risk or would rather not depend on the other person)...

I don't think there are black and white answers to this, like there sometimes aren't black and white answers in life... You can end up weird in real life too...

It's complicated anyway.

CAN and WORMS springs to mind.

There will be that many different possibilities that this thread could never be nailed down correctly.

I would say that only meeting one person at a time would be the most sensible to save love triangles etcetera. What's the rush anyway? Good things come to those who wait...

I disagree that a relationship is not so much physical, looks and attraction wouldnt be that important if that was the case. You need both to make a relationship work and you cant fully get either without meeting.

The thing is how do you know that what you are feeling is real? yeh you can like the words the person said but how can you fully know that that is actually them?

I know some people that have talked to people for several months via just msn and the occasional phone call, I dont get how you can get them feelings and actually get to know each other properly? I mean you need to see their face, see their facial expressions, see them smile and watch them laugh to actually get to know that person, how can you get that via msn, there are only so many smilies you can use!!! Ive said before that I think webcam helps with that side of thing but it sill isnt the person in the flesh!

see although I class myself as single I tell people that I am interested in someone else, on here and in the real life to and because of my feelings (real or not) I wouldnt plan a date with another guy but im also a realist and know that things can and do happen.

Ive come to the conclusion that you CANT be in a proper relationship with a person you have never met, though you can feel loyalty towards them, you cant base a relationship on typed words and emotes, they cant beat or even come close to the touch and the feelings you get in the flesh.

I also think it actually says alot about a person that would label it is a proper relationship and would question their need for control and their ability to have a real relationship in the real life!

All due respect jb..yu sound a little confused

You cant really have a relationship unless you meet..what the point in saying you have a relationship for a long time, then not be attracted when you actually meet?
You can have virtual love with anyone on the net, but you are mainly using imagination. Will you like the sexually when you meet in the skin??

This is a dating site, so people should be meeting. Thats the only guide to know whether you are attracted to someone. Thats why site meets are good, as you get to meet people without any pressure

To be honest, you should reserve judgement on anyone until you have met them.

You will probably know when you want to refrain from chatting and meeting other people.