[quote="Twobitactor"]

missme7 wrote:

Twobitactor wrote: Im just a hopeless dating person in need of a good slap to wake me up a bit lol! There you go Thankyou!

It is a game, and thats where half the fun is, but some people manage to stretch it to the point of incredulity. I like the chasing around, its mentally stimulating, though when you're up against someone who you know damned well is up for it (in whatever form that may take) but just won't make that little step to take it further then its time to abandon ship.

Whether its their inability to be honest with themselves, lack of initiative (which should be a crime punishable by imprisonment in my book) or just plain old fear, if theres no reciprocation then its time to move on. Of course they may not even like you anyway, but why keep someone on hold? If thats the case they're a control freak who isn't worth the time of day, let some other poor schmuck bolster their ego for them.

So yes, the game is great fun, but at times it just seems like unnecessary fucking around. Especially when all the signs are there. Having spent enough time on the sidelines seeing people who just need their heads knocking together and being told to 'just get the marry on with it!' and being cursed with indecisive, insecure timewasters myself (which is really horrible when they have everything else going for them) it makes you a little jaded towards the whole affair.

Chase by all means, but don't be led on.

Please dont tar everyone with the same brush though - remember that not everyone is like that!!!!!!

If thats the case they're a control freak who isn't worth the time of day, let some other poor schmuck bolster their ego for them.



Chase by all means, but don't be led on.[/quote]

Schmuck! Love that word lol!
And thats true mate, chase is good, being led on is not, and i think that happens to me too often, must learn to realise!

Hmm. Maybe that did come across as overly negative. There are some decent people out there, but they're few and far between. I think the problem is that 'the chase' and good old-fashioned prickteasing sit either side of a knife's edge.

Prickteasing is great, both parties get a little something out of the bargain. Its incredibly flattering if you're on the receiving end, and the woman can breathe a heavy sigh of relief and say 'I've still got it! It never left me!', but you have to know where to draw the line. If it carries on too long it sets alarm bells ringing (providing you're not letting your crotch do the thinking). If the only reason you're around is to prop up someone's self-esteem then make like a tree.