too true, I guess I should bite the bullet and just think "sod it"

tbh, it wasn't so much any stigma about my being on the site as the lies and crap that were told about me (photoshop is a cruel tool) by some really nasty people (since dismissed for gross misconduct anyway, so why should I still be bothered?)

I would put a photo but I dont know how to. So until I do then I will leave it bare.

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A picture can say a lot more about a person than words. For some reason as humans we make a judgement about a person based on what they look like. This is the case whether we are interested in dating them or not. Words are an interesting addition to a picture. If you have no picture then either you are an Islamic woman (and like to keep your face hidden behind a veil) or you have Islamic tendencies and beliefs.

I have no problem with women who prefer to remain anonymous until they unveil themselves. If they have something interesting to say then I am interested. Equally, if men want to pretend they are women and have something interesting to say then it does not bother me.

However, if you hide behind a veil, don't expect me to take you seriously as someone who is interested in meeting me. You have to show your face before we can meet so I will be able to recognise you.

You will realise that in politics faces are what is used to sell a candidate. Most people will never meet their local candidate. They might, however, see a picture of their face. An honest genuine looking face is what most people trust. Or do people here believe that voting is only party political?

For young girls in their early twenties or younger a man in his thirties is not going to fit in to their social group. If you are a young girl in her early twenties, and with an empty social life then you might be interested in a man in his thirties. Single mothers are probably in this group, and so it is a fair match. The youngest girl of a group of three sisters or an only child is also likely to feel left out socially, and lonely. She might be interested in sad old lonely men in their thirties.

Quite often asian/chinese women are single children and so this is why they make a good match to sad old lonely men. Neither of them has a social group that the other needs to fit into. (There is a policy in China of one child per family to restrict population growth)

So for those women who would prefer not to be contacted by older men, the feeling is mutual. Older men are not interested in you, they are interested in women who know what they want.

I disagree.

I'm still of the mind that i'll chat to anyone, picture or no picture.

There's a lot of attractive women on this site who don't use a photo, just because of the picture-collectors and piss-taking work colleagues.

I'd say the best bet is just to message them and see if you get on.

If you guys are gonna be fussy, that just leaves more for me

I have no pic or messenger because hard drive down on good computer, but i believe if you put enough info on your profile and be honest you will get friends no matter what. i have been on here for a few weeks and already have several emailing me young and my age. so between the posts on forum and your profile people get to know you anyway, whethere there is a picture or not.

The reason I took my photo of is no one reply's to any messages I send whether my picture's there or not too many women look at photo's as face value and if you've got a face like mine you'll never get a reply

With regards to the earlier point about being able to tell a lot about someones personality from a picture, I don't think thats true at all (don't judge a book by its cover).

Someone who looks particularly friendly might be an absolute prat, someone who looks quite moody might be a nice person under their image.

As for why I haven't got a picture, well I haven't got a recent photo on me at the moment (most recent one I have is from 1 and a half years ago, which doesn't resemble how I look now) but personally I choose not too because I don't feel safe/ comfortable with the idea of having my face on display for anyone to see, but each to their own.

You dont have to talk to em! dating sites dont really tell you enough about a person and even if people put pictures on they are hardly gonna put ones on when they have just got up in the morning and look like poo.
there is so much more to people that a profile and what is to say who is being honest and who is looking for a fling. A picture can only tell you if there may be a physical attraction.
I am as much concerend about the inner person! ie physical attraction is one thing but even then there has to be chemistry and substance to the person.

Actually I have the opposite problem ... There are a lot of nice pictures of good looking women on here, but not all of them bother to write anything about themselves ... at all. There they sit, gazing at me from inside their profiles, but in many cases they've written a single sentence about themselves.

For me it's a double whammy, because I don't want to respond to someone who has nothing to say about themselves. If you only trade in looks, sorry but I don't find that interesting. On the other hand I'm 41, so that makes me a 'dirty old perv' in the eyes of many younger women The fact that this isn't true doesn't seem to make a scrap of difference. Ageism - along with every other kind of 'ism' - is as common in dating as it is anywhere else. The problem is, people don't like to admit to bigotry so the cycle of abuse continues ...

On a slightly different note, I only have two pictures to put on here. Why? Because that's all I have; people don't photograph me that much. And by the way, I look nowhere near my biological age.

tend to not bother with people on dating sites that dont have pictures, often need a way to filter some out and the no picture / have picture is often a good way

One thing that does annoy me is giving Location: United Kingdom, that not really tell me a lot and they could be 15 mins walk away or 15 hours drive