Well, I'm quite new to this internet dating thing. Oh I've used dating websites before, but never so serious. So any tips about how to recognize a scammer, or that a guy is lying to you on the internet, etc? Also, I'm quite curious about cybersex in general. I mean, I don't understand how you can get turned on even if you're not doing it.

The way most members get turned-on on here is when you plug-in their Iron Lung...!

You'll recognize the scammer by the way he or she will ask for money, or your credit card details, or your bank account information, etc. There will be a very good reason for asking for the money: To get over to see you, or to help their dying, aged mother, or their sick daughter, or their angry bookies, etc. They may ask you to buy something from them eg a painting they have done etc. (No, they haven't really done the painting!)

You may recognize them by the standard of their English, or by the country they are in, or by the dodgy email address etc. (Which, or course, they will want to use immediately, because they don't come here often etc. Most likely because they fear having their account here terminated and they get you into their money-making sausage machine quicker.)

Determining if the guy is lying is tricky, since you can't even be sure it is a guy!
That's where the cam2cam comes it!

People were turned on before cybersex... Long before it!

And peopole have always been turned on when they were not doing it...
How else would they get around to doing it?
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Give me golf clubs, fresh air and a beautiful partner, and you can keep the clubs and the fresh air.
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I couldn't have said it better Hansel. Well done!

Well, I'm a virgin, so I wouldn't know. And how do you know if a guy for example, is not single and is just on this site for a one-night, etc?

He could be married with kids, have a few mistresses with kids, have VD or NSU, be charming and attractive, and still be a scammer - after your money, as well as your virginity. You won't be able to tell!

And if he was after a one-night, you won't be able to tell either. But if it was the most amazing one-night, that you remembered for the rest of your life, would that matter?

This is the hook, right?
And you do want to lose your virginity, right?
You probably feel you've kept it long enough!
The rightful prerogative of a childgoddess!

All of life is a gamble, from when we get out of bed in the morning...
IF you get out of bed!
And you have to start trusting your judgement and your instinct.
Because - as you walk life's tight-rope - they are the things at the end of the long pole you carry!
Now! Don't tell me you are on your tight-rope without even your long pole!
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Give me golf clubs, fresh air and a beautiful partner, and you can keep the clubs and the fresh air.
(Jack Benny)

And the women... oh, and people who post pics more than one grade higher in the 'looks department' than this...

You can never tell if someone is being honest with you or not when internet dating. I've had quite a few meetings with men over the years who I've talked to via the internet and 3 of them were nothing like they said they were. 1 turned out to be married, 1 was sending me photos which turned out to be 10 years out of date, and he looked nothing like the photos he was sending me when I finally met up with him. 3rd guy I met turned out to be a psychotic love pest and kept trying to touch me up' and I thought 'thank goodness I'm in a public place', and I ended up making my escape and never spoke to him again!!

I know internet dating can be safe, but it's certainly made me very wary of meeting guys off of the internet again.

I won't not meet any more, but I will definitely make sure I know escape route before I go to meet them!! lol

I've had exactly the same experience with women, without exception. But since I became lesbian the other week there's been a variety of new openings...

Why are so meany of my matches working in healthcare? In fact the largest percentage of them. I did massage, shiatsu, beauty and so on at college and in most cases the courses were listed under "health".

I told the nice bot when i registerd here that i work for the civil service which is true. Dose this mean that all my matches will be nurses and so on ?

Or is the healthcare worker someone with seecret agenda ?

I really wouldnt want to get kicked off here so soon after joining for disconcerting people. But are there any secret codewords used in internet dating that i should knon please.


Tangentfm (Steven)

Thanks for your reply. Now im convinced that you re a real person nd we are not just dealing with webcrawlers and bots 50% of the time here as you ofter are in a big chatroom as on a tv staition. Manys a time that i have had a good thread up and running on the bbc of simillar and gone to stay with a relative only to find a whole differnt chat room when i log in and none of my threads there at all. On my return its all there just as before i left !

As for this helthcare thing i did a lot of beauty training at my local college a few years back when the cuts started to bite and chaps like me were getting sent down the road. At lest if i could do spray tans and aromatherapy and such stuff the stellite box and the internet would not have to go if i were to be made redundent in eventuality. And even if i had to go on to eating nothing but veg it could at least be good stuff.

I focussed on massage and alt therapy for about 18 months. I studied very hard in lots of techniques. Some of the other students had the ITEC or city and guilds qualifictions or other. Now there are websites esp in london that go as health websites where such people can adcertise their services as health care theapists or paracticioners. Its al very low key and they dont want to go as massuses or back rub artists sexologists and the like you see. If you use one of these websites you will most genrally find a lot of different individuals or studios listed. Contact is normally by mobile phone. The studio is often a room in someones home someones home, probably witha table from argos or a council flat with incence burners odd looking chairs and thin mtresses on the floors. You will however get a massge seccond to none most often from a well qualified person at an extreamly reasonable price. Most will not offer the range of kinky service that a parlour will do but it will all be quite personal and tailored to the individual most of the time. Once you get to know one of these people you can normall get their mobile and if they like you they will come and see you at home.

So in that respect the term "Health" or "Healthy" is used as a code word to look for annother alternative service. A good site used to be called London Health and was very nicely set out. Several of the therapists on there were going to college with me. If not they were the people who were likely to get you if you rang one of the numbers. For shiatsu or some other weird thearpy from the orient for example in which they had most likely certificate or diploma and lots of experience.

Just did a web serch and lot of the old links are broken. Seems that the sites have been taken down in some cases. But there is n influx in London of premises offering chinese or other oriental massage either lewd or theraputic at the moment. Probably beacuse the government has licenced them. Must be the government trying to get people back to work and on the tax ladder again in my opinion.

As i sid i have only been on here for about two days now. I still wonder if my civil service status sorts me out as a match for people like nurses ? So far i haven seen any people who say that they have unbecoming jobs at all.



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