To be honest I am a bit apprehensive about going on a date after being married for so many years. I guess i might be out of it. I would rather go some place quiet like a beach and enjoy and ice cream and talk and stay away from the loud clubs and quiet movie theater like i use to do before i got married.
Nerves are gonna get the best of me and i am going to be nervous as hell.

What is it like for some of you after not being on the horse for so long?

I am sure it is normal to be a little bit nervous but i have not even been on a date yet and i am thinking about it already and that can't be good to start with.

How am i going to relax?

Well I was married for 17 years & then on my own for a year before meeting someone & I must say I was terrified, it was worse thinking about it than the actual date its self, you soon get the hang of it, its like riding a bike, you never forget.
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I have pretty much been on my own for three years now and am going to need to get rid of the cobwebs soon. Any more time alone and i am not even going to remember what a woman looks like.

lol. Damn ...i can't even talk about that one thing on earth that will get me up and going?

I need a dog. I love animals. But can't have any since the landlord wont aprove. Maybe a hamster or something to keep me awake at night so i can hae an ice breaker. Listen to me...this is sad. I am getting nervous about getting nervous.

Yeah, i know unfortunately. Brooks saddles are the bomb though and they last so long. I saw this 80 year old guy yesterday with one and it must have been 15 years old and was still in tip top condition. I use radial lacing with a 16 blade count on the front and 24 3 cross in the back in case you were wondering.

You know, i could talk with my wife about this. She was into it as well. And then she would try to teach me some of her Karate stuff, she was a black belt, and laugh her ass off when i fell down.

I went for a ride with mimzy yesterday. I met her last year and we go out every once in a while. Too bad she dont fancy me ...wah....

Yawn, yawn ............. oh have you finished talking about push bikes now??

Are you normally a nervous person ??? All i would say is if you are going to date anyone from a dating site you will already know quite alot about the person ......... well at least there personality .......... I have never been nervous .......... except for the last guy i met ......... but that's because i knew he was something special ............ and knew we were honest with each other before hand ........... 4 weeks later we are still seeing other and everything is great ........... All i would say is if your totally yourself and totally honest you wont go far wrong ..........

I never had this problem when I first started dating again. My ex wife and I decided that was it, we were splitting, and I left. You have to remember I had been fairly depressed for quite a long time because of our relationship problems and had quite a low self-image at the time. So once I was on my own again my immediate thought was, "Right, you're better than all this crap, pull yourself together and get out there and meet women."

So that's what I did and for quite a long time I went a bit mental, pulling women and having loads of one night stands and basically shagging anything female with a pulse. Not exactly proud of it, I suppose it was therapuetic, I needed to prove to myself that I was still attractive to women after being made to feel crap and worthless for so long.

Then, of course, the novelty of doing that started to wear off and I started to miss having someone special to share things with.... and here I am now. My problem is not so much nerves at meeting new women, but problems meeting the RIGHT women.. I've never had any trouble "pulling." But meeting women in clubs and stuff is not really the right way to meet someone if you're looking for something more serious and long term, those relationships never seem to last.

Hence why I'm giving the internet a try...

Know exactly where your coming from Moose..been there done that..and in much the same boat..but been on a few 'dates' with guys I have chatted to off the net..and to be honest don't think that is really for me either..so I just go with the flow now, and maybe just maybe one day I will meet Mr. Rght..