Who is 18, just had her heart broken. She walked in on her boyfriend as he was messing around with someone else.

I have told her the pain will pass..but I am her mother so what do I know?;0
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If someone could post some encouriging words for her, as Im sure we all go through this, please post here as I'm sure it would help, thanks

Thanks for the reply, but this is not an option at the moment I'm afraid

I had this week off from work so at least she didnt come home to an empty house when it happened, but I have to go back to work next week.

If someone around her age who has been through the pain of a break up could reassure her that it will pass, I'm sure it would help

Well all I can say is better she finds out now than later down the line. Sounds like she's better off without him. She's young and has plenty of time to meet someone who will treat her with the respect she deserves. Its painfull know but we all know it gets better and broken hearts do mend eventually given time.

i found out from my previous gf's friends that she cheated on me but we solved that out the first time and said that it would never happen again. Before we broke up she told me that she had some bad news and that i should not get angry because she loved me more than him and when we broke up she just said it was a joke to see what my reaction would be.
Anyhow, what i am trying to say over here is that, whatever his reason is (if he has tried to apologize and give a reason) does not worth her staying with him. Now that she is alone, the best thing to do is to get a hobby so she will keep busy and not think about him or what could have been done!

hope this helps...

Just be there for her as she will tend to be down alot and sad! but it will pass!! shes sooo young, and these things happen to everyone even more then once!
time will heal her pain, i know myself, i had a girlfriend who cheated on me and she broke my heart its been awhile now but i still think of her, but life goes on and u do eventually find someone better!! just be a sholder for her to cry on now and again and be supportive and maybe change a habit that might lead her to think of this person?? just a suggestion!>> she will be fine dont worry!! x

im 19 next week, and i know what its like to have a borken heart, but with time it moves on, im so smiley now, tell her it will take time, and Dan PROMISES it will get better.

Just be there when she needs to talk. If she doesn't want to talk....she will do soon, trust me on this.
Just put yourself in her shoes. Give her space, and don't smother her too much.

If hes messing around then hes not the sort of guy to build a life with, he would destroy it sooner or later and ruin her life, best to love and lose the bad ones when young and find the ones who you can build a permanent relationship with as you get older. I do feel for her though, it must have been horrible for her.

Nothing can help the pain, the old adage "time is a great healer" is probably the only advice you can give.

Maybe without patronising ask her to listen about other peoples similar problems and try to get her to understand that she's not alone and the world isn't against her.

Otherwise just give her all the love only a mother knows how........ sounds cheesy but i think it's the best.

She is only 18, and therefore has the benefit of time on her side. Like a lot of things when we are faced with things they seem to be the worst thing that could have happened to us, however this is rarely the case.

The best way to view it is to think " well i was with him, and i enjoyed it whilst it lasted.... and at least i have that cheating shit bag out of my life" It could have happened years down the line when there were kids, or marriges involved.

I'm a young'un at nearly 22 and i thought the whole world had collapsed when i broke up with my missus of two years at 18, fact is, it hadn't if anything it had made me smarter, bolder, and more confident, also gave me the kick up the arse to get out, and chase goals i had, which i am still doing now.

time heals, just let her take it easy and let her know that there is always someone (you) to listen to her and be a support.

tell her to cop the hell on, he is obviously some clown, cant she just go out and get some other guy, hardly the end of the world is it???

didnt catch my ex at it like but when she finished it after a year i was devistated, its not a nice feeling at all, then to stick the knife in a but more she told me she was cheating on me over that year, wich i think isnt true and she just said it out off spite because i tried my best to get on with it and have a goood time going out meeting people and she was stuck in with no money or job. she wanted me 2 buy her a engagement rig and every thing so i though she was as serious as i was, obviously not!


but good look to her, does get alot easier, and i forgot what it was like 2 be single im 18 now and i now think i was too young to start settling down with someone!